5 Harsh Truths About Men I’d Share If You Were My Daughter | Dating Advice for Women

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• So true about needing self esteem. I didn't even know what a red flag was. If ANYONE seemed to want me, that was a miracle right there. I didn't set standards because I assumed I didn't deserve the treatment I wanted, so we endured a 20 year relationship. Sadly, I'll have probably passed down some sad dynamics to our beautiful daughter. Now I don't think my husband is a terrible man, and in fact, I still love him, but I'm so glad we're splitting up.

• Those were the kindest harsh truths I’ve ever heard in my life. I was wincing going into this video, but came out feeling so good. So respectfully delivered. Thanks Mat 🙂

• Thanks, Mat. This is a great video, VERY valuable, useful information on any relationship.

• Don’t chase people who ghost you/leave you.
  Hold relationships with open arms.
  If they do something once, they’ll definitely do it again!
  They will definitely repeat any abusive behavior.
  They might feel bad or act like they feel bad about it afterwards- But that Will Not Prevent them from doing it again and again.
  People Can change, but they usually do Not change.

• This is an excellent video. I'm still struggling to move on from my seven year relationship. My ex, who I genuinely thought was the love of my life, broke up with me a month ago, and I just can't seem to let go. I feel frustrated and helpless because nothing I've tried has brought him back. I've attempted to move on, but my heart still aches for him, and I can't see a way forward.

  • Thank you for sharing this valuable information. I just did some research on Fatherabulu, and it's surprising what I've found. He seems genuine and capable. Thank you so much for pointing me in the right direction.

• Harsh truth.. If it seems too good to be true, still take your time before becoming too invested. It might not be too good to be true.. but it also might be. Time is still needed to determine the integrity of any individual.

• Loooove this video Matt!! This is Awesome! And, one more time STANDARDS are key. Thank you! 🎉👏👏👏🍾

• THANK YOU 🙏

  Believe this with all my heart.

  Braking up is for (a platonic) boyfriend relationship, when we marry we marry for life. Period. That’s why it’s so important to listen to your instinct (not love) in a courting period!

  EVERY girl/woman needs to hear this!!

• The hardest lesson I have learned is: “You didn’t break him, so don’t fix him!”

• Thanks Mat! Some harsh truths I've learned.
  1. Just because he loves you, doesn't mean he respects you.
  2. Just because he wants to be a good guy doesn't mean he is a good guy.
  3. He may want to make you happy, but if he can't see, hear or know you - if he can't attune to you - he doesn't actually have the skills to contribute to your happiness.
  4. A man who can't be accountable for his actions, who can't take responsibility, will unwittingly cause you pain to avoid his own.
  5. A man who hurts himself will hurt you the same way once he views you as family.
  Peace and Love. 💜

  • Well said

  • Far out. Were you just speaking directly to my life??? Thank you. I had been thinking all these things. Grateful for the affirmation today ❤ bless ya