5 “Nice Girl” Habits All Women MUST ELIMINATE NOW | Relationship Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

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• 1 through 5 are definitely a No-No for me. I've been through one relationship (marriage) where I allowed, and this second time around I'm not going to bring my resentment or anger, but my boundaries will be coming into play next time around.

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• I was married to the nicest man I ever knew I thought. After awhile I was noticing behaviors that were not very good for our marriage. Right after that I discovered that he was a narcissist. He tried to destroy me and I almost lost myself in the process of trying to make the marriage work. I left him. Future faking and micro cheating are only 2 of the characteristics of a narcissist. I am back to writing my poetry and my art, music. I feel like a new person.!!! Ladies you cannot love a narcissist

  • A mi me sucedio igual. Existe una sociedad actual que crea y no pone ningun limite a esta personalidad narcisista. Saludos de Argentina

  • Amen to that, I am also a survivor of a very toxic narcissistic relationship. After you get through it you definitely come out a better person, but it almost destroys you first. I will never again get into a relationship like that.

  • Please stop the ableism. While you cannot love an untreated narcissist, you can very easily love one who is treated. What you were married to was possibly one who was untreated, or suffered from a different mood or mental disorder (BPD, Bipolar, Manic Depression, just to name a few). If he never sought out therapy or even solo therapy when you discussed the issues, then HE is to blame, not his disorder. The majority of us with mental or mood disorders (I have both) seek therapy or solo therapy in order to have healthy and happy relationships.

  • Although those are not characteristics of someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, but can be of anyone lacking healthy balance, maturity, healed attachment wounds, is unaware. The word Narcissism has got inflated and used on people without it being appropriate. Any bad behaviours and human social/love-accidents are not "Narcissism" .We are all human beings and as such flawed and imperfect, and many mistakes made are unaware and can be talked about to be corrected. And we victms play a part too in our co-dependency or other lack of healthy boundaries.
    But maybe your situation was much worse than those 2 things you mentioned, and maybe he really had NPD. Was your problem only with him? I have had mine with many/most people, and not just in love.Have sought prof. help since forever but am still waiting for a right treatment like the ones on YT but IRL. Am too isolated to not have human help in real life, I think. - Nice that you do poetry and art! :-)

  • Me too. I’m loving regaining my creative side, my way, not serving someone else. 🥰

• I really like setting my boundaries are using I statements, being playful, yet direct, and expressing my needs with clarity and kindness

• Hi Matt! 🎉🎉🎉 I agree with u

• Thank you Matt, your advice is so needed!! ❤

• 1. Canceling plans with friends last minute to accept his invitation. It impedes relations with friends and teaches guy his plans are always more important.
  2. Allowing play insults even if it hurts you deep down. Guy will respect you for stating boundaries.
  3. Changing your personality to suit his mood, compromising your way of being.
  4. Allowing yourself to get physical or sexual before you are comfortable. Men don't equate sex with emotional connection early in the relationship. Scare off wrong guy faster to attract the right guy, who will respect a desire to wait.
  5. Forgiving him without an agreement for better behavior. Trust grows from making and keeping agreements. Say "thank you" in response to "I'm sorry" and make a new agreement.

  • Thanks so much for posting this summary - I want to hear what Matt has to say, but I don't always have the time to listen. So again, thanks!

  • @@oliviaSusan1230 Glad to be of assistance. You're welcome!

• Man, I made all those mistakes when I got married! I was 25 then and very immature! My marriage lasted 22 years but it was a complete mess! I was such a frustrated and unhappy woman at that time! Now I've been waiting for the right guy to create a brand new beginning with him and I thank God for all your advices and support! God bless you, Matt!!! Thank you so much for sharing this precious content with us!!🎉❤

  • So how did you handle the situation

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• Mat, I totally agree. This should evolve into a ‘father daughter talk’ type of book if you haven’t already done one. I will for sure show my kids this video, it is not only valuable when it comes to love but all kinds of relationships.

• BOUNDARIES CREATE CLOSENESS

• Nice Girl Habits.
  1. You cancel plans with your friends to accommodate his last minute plans.
  2. Letting him play insult you even though it secretly hurts your feelings.
  3. Changing your personality to fit his moods.
  4. Getting physical before you are comfortable.
  5. Forgiving him without making an agreement for better behaviour.
  When something uncomfortable happens, you speak up.