7 NICE GIRL Habits You Need To STOP Now!

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• I’ve been watching your videos for years and have all of your books as well as audiobooks! I just ended a 2.5 year relationship because he wasn’t able to match my effort then had the kahunas to criticize and complain I wasn’t doing enough for him. My financial contributions were more than half and his debt didn’t allow for me to be home more. He wanted a maid, full time mommy and sex slave. We would argue and he would throw me out on more than one occasion so I left for the last time. I did more for him and not enough for me. Unfortunately he has deep rooted issues with his mom that keep him from having a healthy relationship at this time. I appreciate your advice to men and women ❤. God Bless 🙏

• I know that when Stephan says, "I remember one time...", it is going to be good in terms of funny and interesting. 😄

  • 🙏 lol thank you

• Sometimes people go through a lot, patience is required ❣️

• I used to be like that because, it was what I learned from my mother. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve changed my way and learned to set boundaries and standards.

• I think a good topic of conversation is learning how to draw the line of what acceptable boundaries are. Meaning, how much is “too much”, where do I draw the line, when you are in a “situationship” OR if you are in a getting to know you phase. I think for women to be natural nurturers, the line can easily become blurry and we are unaware that we’re doing too much until it’s too late. I hope that makes sense.

• I was told yesterday the reason why I wasn't taking seriously in the relationship because I was too nice

• Stephan, thank you so much for having the conversation that my dad never had with me ❤

• So much sense here💯! Thanks for sharing Stephan 🙏🏾

  • I’m glad you found it helpful

• Money is a deal breaker unless you are married. I will not help another so-called boyfriend out ever again financially. I have my own bills and responsibilities than to be giving/ loaning even a dollar to a man. If I have my sources to borrow money from without having to bother anyone so should that man have the same situation available to him. A real man does not ask to borrow or have money from a woman.

  • I dont think it should be a “deal breaker”.. but you just need to have a back bone & say no when you know its necessary. if your man lacks in no other love department, but has a little bit of trouble financially, its okay to help when and if you can. But if you broke too then i understand that logic. Cant give what you dont have.. 💯 just dont be so naive & “nice” that every little financial inconvenience he looks to you for a hand out & you give it. Structure, balance, trust & boundaries. You’ll be alright. I used to feel like that.. but we all need help financially somehow somehow.. lift each other up. Don’t starve someone of that, weather he working & making good money or not. The next person doesn’t deserve your bias opinion “money is deal breaker” based off one nasty financially abusive relationship..

• 100%! Love that idea of one “real day off” for each. It’s “me” time. Then when I’m done with “me” time I might choose to have some “us” time. 😘

  • Indeed