7 Relationship RED FLAGS IN MEN You Should NEVER Ignore! | Stephan Speaks

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• I ignored red flag #1 and it really was just as bad through out the 1 year relationship. I paid for our first date $130 🥴

  • Same and now I’m paying for the issues

• I’m about to leave my boyfriend of 9 years. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. 😢 Stephan.. you are a God send to me! I’m listening to your videos & reading your books. Thank you for helping so many people like me.

  • Why are you still a girlfriend after 9 years? 🤔

  • @One Rational Lady I imagine it's hard.. I hope you the best...
    I just wanted to know how the video relate to real case relationship, that's why I'm asking..
    if you don't mind, may I ask about what things make you upset for so long in the relationship?

  • @Christina Natalia Puspita Wow! Are you psychic? Lol I just told him tonight! It’s been such an emotional night. I move to Tennessee in a month. Already have a place to live even. I’m doing it!! He’s very upset & emotional. But I’ve been upset for years about our ‘relationship’ and he’s had so long to really commit to me. I should’ve left a long time ago. I’m very sad but know there’s a light at the end of this tunnel. Thank you for asking!! 😊

  • what's happening?

  • ❤❤❤❤❤.. God loves you and you don’t deserve bad thing ok !

• You're right, Stephan. Dated an emotionally broken man who wouldnt put a title on the relationship but insisted he loved his ex and that we were NOT in a relationship, however he refused to let me go. He'd chase me down if I even thought of lending it so it became a 5 year long battle and he still hasnt stopped although I stopped seeing him 2 years ago. He almost cost me my life, I went into an autoimmune episode and had heartfailiure as a complication from the emotional stress. It was like dating a demon.

• I've recently ended a relationship where a guy I was seeing was earning 3x more than me and discovered he couldn't make positive financial decisions. There are so many red flags in men. Wanting to constantly message/call, checking up on you. Makes you feel wanted at first but you quickly realise it's actually an obsession. Needing constant reassurance & validation. Making it all about themselves. Pretending to have health issues so you feel sorry for them, needing that care from you. The moment he realised I was dead end, he switched off. I am so glad I came across these videos, I am doing a bit of a research and study on my behaviours and why I always attract toxic men. I want to focus on myself for a while and to heal from these experiences. We all deserve to be loved and respected. Not going to settle for any less, ever again 💯

  • ​@LADY GODIVA: The Naked Truth LMFAO. That came out of no where

  • @Ivana Fabisikova yeah and he’s probably another woman!!

  • @Heather Fulmore you just need time to heal. When we have too much anger and hurt within ourselves, we feel like we don't want to try again. But everyone deserves to be loved and respected. The issue is that we allow too much in relationships and we ignore red flags. Give it some time, there is someone out there for you, never give up! You've got this 👍🏻

  • I don't understand men. I give up.

• If a man isn’t willing to give your relationship a title, he’s basically telling you that he’s not serious enough to commit to you. Ladies, please don’t sell yourself short and waste your time on men who aren’t willing to honor you and commit to you. You are worth so much more than that

  • ❤❤❤i learned this, been through this

• I truly have to say that a lot of men need to watch this video because a lot of men don't know where their mistakes are at...me I can speak for myself that I truly love my woman I respect her everyday highly favored to her I love taking care of her spoil her every time give her affection that she needs pay attention to her issues and try to resolve them I take the weight off of her and I deal with them doing the little things that matters to her. Send her love text messages out of the blue just because I love to making her smile. And now I'm planning on making her my wife. These are some of the things that my mother has taught me as a man to respect women how to cherish a woman so I truly believe that a lot of men should watch this video because I think it really help. Thanks Stephan for this great message.

• Communication really is important. Trust me...i was shut down and made to feel stupid any time i wanted to express my feelings...it made me feel lower than dirt. and when you love someone with all your heart and they make you feel that way...it hurts worse than anything i can describe. Have you tried to tell someone youre depressed, and sobbed and you just wanted a hug to feel loved and comforted, and he turns to you and says "Ugh give me a fucking break!" ...god...it just makes you wanna die. It stays with you. Never again did i open up to anyone else or to him ever again.

  • I’ve dealt with similar stuff it does hurt

  • Just come out a marriage like that ..all u want is to be hugged and all u get is a cold shoulder..and told u always crying...

  • So sorry. Been through the same. Asked my boyfriend for a hug and he said i should look for him if i really want it. This is after he shared his day's program without addressing my need for that hug.

  • I understand exactly how it feels going through something like that now it don’t feel good trust I don’t want to open up again either it’s real

  • I feel this, sorry

• #1 Going 50-50
  #2 Not communicating issues
  #3 Not giving you a title
  #4 Verbally/ physically abusive
  #5 Keeps you a secret
  #6 He says ‘all men cheat’
  #7 Blatantly ignores your needs

  • Going 50/50 is a manly trait. Y’all some betas

  • Psych If someone has asked to take you out, they pay if it's a first date. Later on, 50 50 is fine and expected.

  • Thank you so much it's past my bedtime and this is 30 minutes long lol ;)

  • Thx

• If u can't communicate, if your inconsistent if you give and don't receive, if u feel left confused, it's not up to you to fix, it's up to you to value yourself enough to let go and self love to find happiness in yourself. We can't change ppl and shouldn't try. Not our lessons to keep enabling bad habits. Be the queen and have that self respect.

  • Communication is definitely key!

• The verbal abuse is just as dangerous as the physical abuse

  • Don’t forget emotional abuse too. I think the mental pain is worse than physical. I’ve had both

  • Can be worse cause if he’s gaslighting you’ll you may not even think you ARE being abused or you may blame yourself .

  • Yes people need to understand is has the same physiological effect on a person if not much worst as physical abuse

  • It's more dangerous, imo.