7 Things You Should Not Do WITH HIM Before A First DATE

@Ellen_on_relationships says:

This video is such a great reminder of how important it is to set the right foundation before a first date. One thing I’ve found incredibly helpful is focusing on the experience rather than the outcome. It’s so easy to get caught up in the ‘what ifs’ and start fantasizing about the future, but that can lead to unnecessary pressure and disappointment.

For anyone struggling with overthinking or anxiety before a first date, here’s a practical tip: create a pre-date checklist to ground yourself. For example:

What’s one thing I’m curious to learn about him?

What’s one thing I want to enjoy about the experience (e.g., trying a new restaurant, having a fun conversation)?

What’s one boundary I want to set for myself (e.g., no sexual talk, no oversharing)?

This helps shift the focus from ‘Will he like me?’ to ‘How can I enjoy this moment and stay true to myself?’ It’s also a great way to build confidence and reduce anxiety.

Another strategy I’ve found helpful is limiting pre-date communication. As Stephan mentioned, too much texting or calling can create a false sense of intimacy and set unrealistic expectations. Instead, save those deeper conversations for the date itself, where you can read body language and gauge chemistry more accurately.

What’s one thing you do to prepare for a first date that helps you stay grounded and present? Sharing your experience might help others approach dating with more confidence and clarity.

@TawandaClark-ii9ps says:

Good point concerning talking too much before a first date..

@BlessedSkn says:

This really hit me hard I just messed up a date with a guy.. I did most of these things in here 😢 have been overthinking all through the day.. Thank you I know every mistake I learn everyday..