Anxious Attachment Style? Do this! | Relationship Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

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• 100 times thank you. This is so powerful and healing 😊❤❤❤

• Thank you for this video, and for the work that you do, Matt. What’s worked for me in the past is reconnecting/re-prioritizing my relationship with Christ, and remembering that my worth and value do not come from another person, but from God. And with Him, I am enough.

  • This video has found me right when I needed it! Several months ago I ended a year and a half long relationship with a narcissist. I just started dating a really great guy who treats me well (holds the door, opens my car door, pays for everything, etc). I know he likes me a lot and we have a fantastic time together. But I find myself wanting validation from him because of what I went through. I’ve realized that it’s all fear based because I’m worried that I’m not good enough, or I’ll do something to make him leave, etc. Thank you so much for this video.

• I have had a problem with anxious attachment and it really cost me to the extent that he was beginning to cost me. So when I realised it was majorly because I have anxiety disorder I decided to stop chasing after him and deal with myself. It wasn't easy but once you find that sense of inner peace, self confidence and security everything will begin to fall into place. You'll give out the energy that will attract even better.
  As for me, he came back once he realized I had improved on myself and I did give him another chance. It worked out well.

  • I really admire and appreciate that you have mastered this anxious experience, it sounds really terrifying and like a really big thing that you overcame.
    What's really sad though is that he came back once he saw that you "improved on yourself". He doesn't deserve to be in a 100km radius near you, what a miserable approach to a relationship. You'll probably hate me for saying this but I think you deserve to be treated better.
    Still I think, just for you, you have come so far in getting yourself out of this mud of anxiety in relationships, that is massively remarkable. God bless you.

  • @@gill426 actually from what he was put off by my habits then. That's what I figured when I was working on myself. He made his own mistakes and when we decided to get back together we cleared everything but trust me when I say I'm prepared to protect my peace should he start acting weird.

  • @@eveescaholuoch7214 Thank you for sharing. Your situation sounds similar to mine. Years of employment issues exacted a toll on me before I got asked out. Dating was a huge boost for me. My ex commented multiple times on some of my anxious tendencies, and sometimes he said that he didn't feel relaxed when we hung out, although a bout of unemployment for him factored into that. I wonder if it drove him off. I've gotten better in the months since he broke up with me and feel more stable emotionally. I wouldn't mind having him back.

• Matt‐-I can't thank you enough for your wisdom here. I am dealing with this very thing as an anxious attachment personality style!!! You have given peace and hope to my soul with my significant other right now. You are amazing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!! ❤

• Thank you, this video is actually really helpful in other situations too, not just romantic relationships. In my experience the anxious attachment comes up in so many other relationships too (because everything is relationship basically), even in relationship to food or shelter or something like that. I think you're on a really good path there and I appreciate the way you explained that, I kinda wish you would go even deeper into that topic and maybe help a little more through your insights into how we can deal with that anxiety and worry that often comes up. Thank you very much for your video, it was really good! 😊

• Totally agree with all of this, thanks Matt! Something I find also helps is to distract yourself by meeting up with friends for a walk/coffee/hobby etc if you can...also that gives you something to talk about when you do see each other alongside taking the pressure off him to ferl he's your main source of attention!

• I love the way you described intuition. Made me think of different times in my life when love vs fear was activated. So on point. Thank you.

• What a great reminder. Think I need to watch this video daily. ❤

• Anxious Attachment Style.
  1. Are your thoughts limiting your beliefs or intuition.
  2. Re establish your point of peace.
  3. Fire and wire that new belief.
  What has worked for me is this. Telling myself I was just fine before he came into my life. If he leaves, I'll be just fine again.

• I absolutely needed this today. Thank you.