EXCLUSIVE: Love Is Blind’s Clay Gravesande and His Mom Margarita Tells All | Dear Future Wifey E812

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• I hope A.D. gets the chance to come on this show and speak.

  • You know Laterras already has it in motion😂

  • @@SymonnePatABSOLUTELY

  • Yep he be on it for sure@@SymonnePat

  • Totally agree👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • 100%👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

• So excited to watch this. I love Clay and his mom! I don't think enough people have grace for him. I love his transparency.

  • I think AD had a lot of love and understanding. She just felt like he led her on to let her down.

  • Oh yes I agree AD was very understanding. I think it's sad that they didn't end up on the same page even though they planned to be.

  • Exactly!

• Season one was the best season of this show. The ppl that got married are still married 5yrs later. It was authentic. I feel like now most ppl have an agenda. True connection no matter how quick can work.

  • Agreed. I haven't watched many more at all after that. The pandemic had some good shows.... those 2nd seasons got into the hype of society.

  • Another GREAT show birthed out of the pandemic - DEAR FUTURE WIFEY! Standing the test of time!

  • Yes they want paid partnerships now smh they seen how well Lauren did and immediately wanted the clout. But Lauren and her husband are one in a million.

  • I agree!

  • I really like your comment!

• God doesn't make any mistakes. His storyline was needed on Love Is Blind. Many people were able to see how your childhood can affect your relationships(romantic and platonic) as an adult. It also showed how women will ignore all the signs that say , "Do not marry him, He's not ready" just to be a wife. Thank you, Laterras, for bringing Clay and his mother on the show. His mother's conversation with his Dad was vital to understanding Clay. Parents have to eat humble pie and own up to our actions and apologize to our kids(grown or young) when we drop the ball. I commend Clay for letting her know he wasn't ready to marry her. I don't think she was mature enough to care for his heart and understand what was actually going through his head. People (the viewers)get caught up in the romantic side of the show and cast judgment without understanding. This season was a great learning experience for everyone who watched. I learned a lot about myself and what to look for in a future purpose partner.

  • I concur with your response! This season was a great learning tool! I as well appreciated his mother and the dialogue she shared, sooooo valuable!!

  • So true

• It baffles me how people are mad at this man they don’t know from what he did on a tv show. It’s ENTERTAINMENT!

  • Thank you!!! That's what I keep saying...lol

  • I don't know now my YouTube friend...what did he do? 👁‍🗨👁‍🗨 lol. Let me get caught up

  • Because someone actually got hurt. Someone’s heart is not for entertainment

  • An "experiment" at that...plus A.D. signed up for that possible outcome

  • Facts

• I didn’t watch this season but Clay is so articulate, intelligent and handsome that he has influenced me to watch this season. He has every right to make a decision that’s best for his life. I think he did the right thing. He and AD now can take the time and get to know each other in their time. He was raised right!!❤

• Myself, and nearly all of my female friends are either in therapy, or have been before. None of us are perfect, but a lot more women seem to be doing the work to become healed and whole before pursuing romantic relationships. We’re not asking men to come to us perfect, or completely baggage free. We’re just asking you to start the work before you get to us, so you don’t harm us on your pathway to healing. You can’t keep raking us over the coals to keep yourself warm, and then asking us for grace afterwards.

  • 💯

  • Yes, that part!

  • That’s the ideal BUT we have to accept that women are inherently and socialized to be more comfortable with being emotional, talking about our emotions, and processing our emotions.
    That is NOT a thing for men. Still.
    It’s the goal, but it is just not a social norm in our society so… while it can be a desire that a man will be that self-aware and emotionally mature… we also have to accept that those are rare men.
    And that it’s likely that a relationship or child will prompt a man to do that.

    So… I focus more on encouraging them to do the work. Normalizing mental health care in ALL forms and… raising my son to be emotionally intelligent

  • WELL said! 👍👍👍👍👍

• Clay was transparent thru the whole process. Let’s be honest if we were on the show half of us would be crucified for our actions.

• Hearing his mother speak was everything. ❤️

  • Everything!!!!!!!

  • For sure!

  • Yes!!!

  • She is such a blessing

  • Right! And even though she didn’t SAY it, I feel like she didn’t think they weren’t meant for each other at that time! Also, people leave the most important factor in a relationship of any kind and that’s GOD! When you listen to Him, you will never go wrong!

• Unpopular opinion: I commend Clay for knowing he wasn’t ready to fully (emotionally and mentally) commit to someone he’s known for 6-8wks…even if he waited til the alter. (The point of the show, which many has done before this season). We saw him struggled the whole time about seeing himself as a husband. He knew there was more work to be done within himself. His crown was shifted, it never fell off. Keep doing the work king!

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  • I couldn't agree more.

  • Yessss I ABSOLUTELY agree with your response. It was sad to see him tell her No but I appreciated his honesty and transparency!

  • Amen

  • Yessss Yessss Yessss! The hard part is he did with millions watching a produced show that makes us unconsciously get into “fairy tale ending” mode. We also have sister AD that also requires some healing and growth that she mentioned. We tend to forget those moments we needed grace to grow from whatever the (______) fill in the blank moment was. Some might need to ask if they have unconsciously lost grace for men and how many moments we wished somebody broke it off with us versus take us through a rollercoaster that lead to more damage in the end. Clay has a lot to take responsibility for and I do think there was covering he could have done for AD before going to the altar. He is also sounds like the first in his family to work on healing at this level with no blueprint of how to do this. Mistakes will be made on the journey of designing a generation’s first blueprint on healing before partnership. If anything, Clay & AD with the help of Clay’s parents opened up a topic that many people needed to see that I hope results in more healing so healthier relationships can be birthed from it.