EXCLUSIVE: Love Is Blind’s Clay Gravesande and His Mom Margarita Tells All | Dear Future Wifey E812

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• What is so wrong with wanting to heal, give this man grace

  • Nothing wrong with healing. Stop engaging with folks when Y'KNOW you need to heal. At some point you have to break the cycle of hurt people hurt people, 🙄 sit yo behind down somewhere and be still while you heal.

• I really don’t understand how people say they want men to open up and tell their side but when their side is not palatable to some they immediately project negativity onto them. I still encourage Black men to be vulnerable but I understand why they have a hard time doing so. I pray people heal so they can stop placing their stuff onto everybody else.

• Please do not compare this emotionally intelligent young MAN to Derrick Jackson. They are NOT the same. At all! ☺️ Thanks for having Clay on.💪🏾 🙏🏾 Proud of him.

  • I don't think he was comparing the two men per say, but moreso the experience of having two "unpopular" social influences on his show... one being one that drove his revenue down and one who he hopes won't do the same because of the way people feel about him. I think he's pretty safe with this episode though. I hope so anyway.

• He knew he wasn’t ready BEFORE he got on the show…hell he didn’t even do enough research to even watch the show prior to signing up HOWEVER I am so glad you invited him on the yellow couch. So many men need support in healing

  • I’ve watched people swear they were ready for marriage on that show and be the absolute worst ones on the show!! Who is truly ready for something like that when the process is so intense and unnatural… It’s unrealistic to think anyone is “READY” to marry a person after 4-6 weeks of knowing them. It’s a risk either way!

  • My exacy sentiments.

  • Yes and AD needed help too and will be a great discussion. She wasn’t ready either.

  • exactly.

  • I agree. He thought AD was going to date him after the show even though she said no, he did not believe her and took his chances. Date her after the show, want the wiffie ways but not put a ring on it.

• Mama Gravesande is indeed the TRUTH and I can listen to her all day. She’s such a wealth of WISDOM! Laterras, thank you again for this wonderful interview and thank you for succumbing to The Holy Spirit for bringing Clayton on the show. There’s SO much to unpack from this interview and I would recommend anyone desiring to heal to watch this. Finally, we need to give ourselves and others, grace!

  • Thanks

• Thank you Laterras for stepping out in faith to do this episode! It was truly a blessing.

• When I watched the show, in the beginning I felt Clay wasn’t authentic. However I noticed he really was battling some trauma. He said more than a few times his biggest fear was not being ready or hurting her. We are grown-ups with childhood bruises.

  • Based on my viewing & understanding, the trauma was seeing the man he loves & respects the most dishonor the woman (mom) he loves the most. Hence being mom & dad relationship. Most times we don’t notice we pick up our relationship style from what we witnessed growing up.

  • Maybe it's a generational thing but I couldn't comprehend what trauma he's trying to heal from. Could you please enlighten me?

• "I felt he was saying I'm sorry to my heart" Powerful! This episode was and is powerful!

• I honestly feel like there is a lot of truth in what Clay has disclosed to us. Although I don’t think he should’ve went on the show with all the reservations and issues he had because the show was about getting married within that quick timeline. I’m sure they went over that with him. He is not fully at fault here because AD chose to ignore a lot of red flags. I do feel whole heartedly that his purpose on the show was for the healing needed for his family. I loved the scene between his mom and dad. We needed to see something real like that on television. I hope they are all healing!

• If we actively listen to this conversation without our judgement ears, we might learn a thing or two. Honestly, I watched the show, and I was confused with his decision but listening to him now on this podcast I feel like i understand him more. Laterras, I am proud of you for giving this King the space for him to be open and transparent throughout this interview and tell his story. This world is lacking in Grace, we are so quick to judge people without knowing everything. Great interview and I'm ready for Wednesday interview as well. This season has been LIT for real