German Women Don’t Want Men to Pay for Them π©πͺ
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I asked German women on the streets of Munich and Cologne who pays on the date and here is what they had to say.
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So all us Latino men are out!
Don’t worry, a lot of women still appreciate gallantry π
Speak for yourself
Yeah because we the balkans we re in e π
Iβm Latin Caribbean & this is why my wife is European. Latinas want a father not a husband.
@@Icu4u2nvso pull your weight when it comes to house labor and child rearing. Yβall always want financial equality but never labor equality.
Finally some women that don’t have issues with the gender equality bit. This was the same mindset with all my gfs during college. Then I graduated & it was next to impossible to find this mindset.
A lot of women talk a whole lot about equality & modern mindsets while expecting men to remain traditional. Not how it works. If you want traditional than you gotta be traditional. If you want mondern mindset then deal with the men that have that same mindset of equal responsibility to relationships. You can’t have both ways.
Yes, you can. In Russia. In the last century traditionally women worked as hard as men but the men still allowed women to be women when going on dates: flowers, presents, paying for dinners.
This is a healthy society
β@@oliviao3686No, it’s not a healthy society, for God’s sake! π
@@Cesario-ug5rd yes, it is. That’s how God created us
@@oliviao3686 Has God created us by making pay men for women forever? π
@Cesario-ug5rdΒ I’m sorry, I’m afraid your small Western brain will not be able to comprehend fully the concepts of “man” and “woman.”
If your family and environment have not instilled this in you from your childhood, you are a lost cause.
Good luck)
If a woman is in a financially weaker position, then it makes sense that the man pays, the same reason I would pay for a friend if he is a student or in financial difficulty.
However, just because someone is female doesn’t automatically means she needs to be protected, be weak, be subjugated, or be a princess. If it happens that she earns more than her man, or her man stays at home to take care of the family, then it makes sense that she pays more.
The idea that “men should always pay” is based on the dated social phenomenon that women don’t or couldn’t work and are always financially dependent on men. It is purely economics, and shouldn’t be mixed with “being feminine” or “being gentlemanly or macho”.
I β€ German women.
True equality right here
It is a nice gesture for sure but it should not happen all the time in my opinion.
Why? If you are feminine what about the cost of nails, hair like a shampoo that doesnβt fry your hair is $35 and Olaplex bond repair is $40 then conditioner is $50, and that isnβt including hair masks, then there are colour consultations, the therapist like mine is $200 an hour so that I have great communication skills and donβt transfer generational curses, then there is my gym, plus designer shoes and handbag. Okay I bought second hand but leather shoes and leather bag when I was younger then more expensive bag after 25. When you are older there are facials Botox, Gua Sha, squaline serum and moisturizer is so expensive if you want one that works. I use Keihls and as a student used biotherme then belief. Letβs not forget the Dyson. It costs! I spend more on my appearance than my date would on a Michelin star restaurant and they are happy to go somewhere nice to show a lady who is presentable. And now that I am married my husband happy pays for any feminine upkeep because that is called equality and reciprocity. He leveled up financially so he could have a feminine pretty wife and pay for the upkeep. I would never shave my legs.. I actually wax .. for someone who doesnβt pay for my dinner. If he wants to split the bill, he will see a hairy wooly mammoth with a beard and moustache. My husband pays for my laser so sadly the beard and moustache have disappeared. Legs are not a beard, shaving takes time and waxing is painful and expensive but you only do it once a month. Value yourself and donβt ever put a razor to your entire legs and body for free. All he has to shave is a beard and that is just not fair!
β@@mariaalmasaniroyalhouse9214I see your point. Since you are putting that much money and effort in your appearance you expect the other person to match your level but… being extra is your choice. You don’t have to do all this… But if it’s working for you by all means keep doing it. I’m more laid back and I’m searching for a like-minded partner. It also depends on their love language. If it’s gift giving, I am more than happy to accept that but this is because I want them to be happy.
@@just_depie did you know who wanted to date me when I was low maintenance with acne and fried hair? Losers. When I became a model and got extensions and became high maintenance everyone was asking me out. Stop lying to yourself that men want someone low maintenance. Your hair does not look natural in your photo and you look like you have make up on so quit lying in hopes of being picked.
Making your standards so low it takes a Titanic submarine to find them isnβt how you attract men. They think she must be low status because she has to lower herself.
I was talking just about the shampoo routine it takes to grow my hair without extensions and not fry it. I am mixed race so drug store shampoo destroys my hair and then I need to wash it every day that hurts it and use a ton of product to make it not look dead. When I use shampoo products designed for my hair, it changed my life.
I used to have an acne problem. When I spent money treating my acne so my face didnβt look like a pepperoni π pizza I got far more male attention.
Imagine if I didnβt wax now laser off my beard and moustache.
Stop lying that βwe donβt need to do all thatβ. You just want to say we ladies are inherently worthless and in your mind are lucky to be a consistent sperm toilet π½ which is called a girlfriend.
Western women who think they donβt need to do all that are what losers settle with because they could not afford someone who invests in herself, has high standards of herself and others and brings value to the table
No wonder you want to split the bill because you find it beneath you to invest in yourself and add value to your date. People who say βyou donβt need to do all thatβ only can date losers as the person a loser has to settle for.
@@mariaalmasaniroyalhouse9214 You don’t even know me. I responded to you very politely and you apparently don’t do the same. You shouldn’t make assumptions and judge people.
There are more important things in life than the way you look. You can be presentable and well-groomed without having to spend a fortune. You can live a happy life without a designer bag. It’s all about the things you value. I value education, a good deep conversation, a good film, a refreshing hike. Live your life the way you like but be respectful of other people’s choices. This is true elegance.
This is a girl with quality lmaoo its rare brees now day
Iβm a German man. When I meet a woman and she doesnβt want me to pay for her, I assume she is not interested in me.
Dann bist du schwach.
I’m a Russian woman living in Italy. When I know for sure that I’m not seeing the man again and the bill is big, I’ll prefer to pay for myself. And vice versa: I always get my money out but if the man lets me pay for myself, I will not meet him as a man again, maybe as a friend he wants. But for me- he’s lost all his masculinity when he made me pay for my dish
wtf is this mindset, Money isnt everything,
@@zaltix02 wtf is this level of stupidity? It’s not even nearly about MONEY
@@zaltix02 I think itβs more about the symbol the money stands for. Paying for a woman means taking care of her. It also means giving the outward expression (towards the waiter and other guests) of belonging together, of being a couple – even if you are not and itβs your first date. I can only guess why this is so important for women. Perhaps it has to do with security. A man paying for her and thereby showing some degree of protection towards her makes her feel secure, especially in a public place like a restaurant or a bar. But thatβs just my interpretation.
In Russia than man always pays
Thatβs why I stay away from Russian women.
It’s an honor for us filipinos to pay the bills all time we go out with our gf its part of our cultureπ
yea itβs also very common in the Middle East
@@leedlbagginshield8492 good to know, high respect to women out thereπ
Yes us vietnamese too
On the first date there is no gf. π
Imagine you have 54 dates in a Year (a gf had βοΈ) and you have to pay for nothing.
@@maryfiero8122 greetings! Advance merry christmasππ²π²π²
German men also cook, clean the house, do laundry, and take care of the kids equally too.
It’s way healthier in my opinion
@@lauras1553 right, I donβt think itβs bad at all. It sounds pretty fair.
I don’t believe this
β@@chrystianaw8256why π
Exactly
German, Dutch and Nordic women on top π
Yes
Well, i don’t mind if my wife want to pay for the movie or dinner occasionally, but my girlfriend? I don’t think soπ
Well said german Girls! Proud of you!
I lived in Germany for over a year as a student back in 1988, and the German women are really difficult to develop a good relationship with. They seem to always want to have the upper hand in the relationship.
that’s no true. We don’t have the “upper” hand. We , men and women base our relationships on equality and respect, not on a some outdated idea of men being the head of a family and having the upper hand in a relationship. That’s a very unhealthy way of thinking. In a good relationship no one has the upper hand. It sounds to me that you could’t deal with the fact the we don’t put up with macho outdated BS
@@caraira1909 BS! Mutual respect is a load of crap in Germany. Woman have an attitude of entitlement and expect men to cater their every whim and when they don’t do as asked they are criticized and disrespected! We men are not a damn walking wallet or ATM for your convenience! Get a life and a job! We don’t put up with you western European women or American women anymore! We have options! Go die alone with cats!
β@@caraira1909bullshit you are in constant power struggle with your men,you have deep insecurity toward male gender
That’s called being humble!
We need to export more men to Germany
Now ask the same question in russia π
Iβm an American woman, and I have the same mindset. This makes more sense to me than having the man always pay. I think is fair.
How would you prefer a man show you he likes you or appreciates your time and company?
Wow, the first girl is the ultimate beauty.
i was hooking up with a german girl briefly I had no problem paying but she was so insistent on paying her own. One time she slammed her money on the table for the bill then turned to me with a real passive aggressive smile. It was a real culture shock for me learnt something new that day.