His Money Shouldn’t Matter in Dating

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• Truth!!

  • 💯 yes!

• It doesn't

• They don’t care about your money until they realize you make more than them😭 Then, (some/most/who I’ve unfortunately had to deal with), they can’t handle it. Even when I try to avoid the conversation at all costs hoping they’ll like me enough to not be intimidated by my “success”. Which is a whole other issue.

  • I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏🏼

  • @annettejohnson5291 I don't get why men get so tripped up over that. As long as a woman feels like I am doing my part and contributing to the relationship, I am fine with that. In fact, I welcome it! I care more that our lifestyles are compatible. I wonder if some of it is fear and insecurity. To me, the simple solution to combat fear is, if you are in a marriage and you have something in mind that will require more of the income of the higher earner, do your research ahead of time, if possible, then simply discuss it with them and see if they are ok with it.

  • @@JStig12 Most men don’t have a problem with dating a woman who makes more than him. Men have a problem with women who leverage the fact that they make more money to A) Talk down to him. Or B) Demand he handle more of the domestic responsibilities than what he’s comfortable with.

    In those cases, most men would quickly come to the conclusion that they’re better off being single than dealing with a woman who’s trying to force him to change his lifestyle to accommodate her. But people are quick to write-off such situations as men being “intimidated”.

  • @@JStig12 Good point about compatible lifestyles…and maybe cultures. I’m a Black woman in a conservative state…dating who will give me a chance, lol. I’m joking…but, it kinda seems like that sometimes. I actually don’t mind “traditional” roles, but that has to be earned. Otherwise, I have to take care of me. And I agree about fear and insecurity. It happens to all of us, but at least be able to have a conversation about it. Give me a chance to ease your fears and do what you need to make you feel secure. Most of the time I don’t get a chance to convince a man they are contributing what I need. They assume they are not. Baby, I’m telling you…if you are filling in the gaps, complimenting my life, and making my life easier? Believe me when I say that you are enough. I don’t need diamonds, fancy cars, material things, texts every minute. I’m secure in myself. I just need you to be my ride or die, my spiritual partner, my best friend. I don’t ask for much, lol. But, apparently simplicity and low maintenance hasn’t gotten me very far 🫠 Thank you for your perspective

  • @@AJweathersby Yes, I’ve definitely seen some situations where a woman intentionally emasculates a man. I don’t think women in that situation understand the harm they can do to their man and their relationship. I personally stay away from finances for as long as I can. No one (not even my family) knows how much I make. I have a low key car and most of the time in leggings or sweats…ponytail or braids and no make up. My favorite flex about a guy I was dating is him making a simple pasta dinner, wine, and letting me decompress and chat. Or me asking him to cut up an apple for me (yeah, I know)…him leaving his office to cut it up and running back upstairs (I was in an online meeting). I don’t know. I’m a marriage and family therapist and all about love, listening, and supporting one another. There are kind women out here. I guess it’s about finding the right fit. But, I think I may have to leave this state to find men who are more open minded🤷🏽‍♀️ Thank you for your perspective

• Where is he .. because unfortunately I met the broke ones 😂😂😂

• Nice info Stephan

  • ❤️ 😊 thank you!

• Cardboard BOX??? Limber limber limber😂😂😂

• That's a lie

• I dated this guy who was flawnting his stuff and lifestyle.. i didn't care for any of that. I told him multiple times, i wanted to know HIM. Still he treated me as if i was beneath him. I stayed loyal while he was having diners with golddiggers, he kept his option open. My selfesteem got a big hit.Stayed to long... lesson learned.

• All I wanted was His love ❤❤❤ still looking

• I told mine all I want is his heart and love

  • Lol