Hospitality in USA and Netherlands is SHOCKINGLY Different 🇺🇸🇳🇱
How is American and Dutch hospitality different? What makes Dutch weddings unique? Jasmina is actually a German who has lived in the US so she talks about the cultural differences of the two countries.
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Well Dutch are known to be stingy 🤣
Same with the Germans
@@Just4Kixsyea. Just wanted to add!
No all but maby most
Same with J*ws
And evil they killed with Serbiabs 8000 Bosnians in Srebrenica disgusting
Lol man they are SO CHEAP
Rich
@@marvin2678cheap very cheap
We have to respect their culture and tradition don’t you think?
@@ladylokiofasgard Nee
@@ladylokiofasgardDutchie here. The fact that she had to pay for a homemade dinner once, doesn’t mean that it’s a thing here or part of our culture. I have never heard of this before and was thaught that when you invite people over, you make sure you have enough food for everyone (and don’t charge them for it).
Hey everyone! I will soon be doing a long video talking about the “Going Dutch” culture, and how it affects both the dating aspect and friendships in the Netherlands, so don’t forget to tune in!
Can’t wait.. I have strong views on them..😂
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Holy sh*t what?! They make you pay for a homemade dinner you were invited to as a friend?!?! Imma need to see the full video for context lol
So rude
I’ve also had this happen in Germany. It’s so weird to me
Its not norm but in Japan its an unspoken rule to contribute with ingredients or cash for said ingredients, gas fee, anything, specially when its friends, because you are deemed equal. If an elder invites you, they must pay, if you invite a youger one, you must pay all. Its a common sight to see Japanese people checking the receipt to math out the exact amount per capita hahahahaha I heard most East Asian cultures are very similar. Americans are just wholesome ❤🦅
@@miguemigue6969here in Brasil if you invite someone for a dinner in your house either you make the whole dinner(usually the person invited brings something to be polite) or you agree beforehand(when you are very intimate with the friends/family) to order something or to each couple make a dish(some for main dinner some for desert) and everyone brings their own drinks. Though even if you make the whole dinner the guests tend to bring their own beverage.
@@manuellarodrigues4386 the USA is the same minus the drinks part. The host provides that here. Bringing something is regional though. In some areas it’s a nice gesture, but not necessarily expected, others is considered rude if you don’t bring something.
I find it extremely weird that you would have to pay, if you were invited specifically for dinner. For me it’s different when me and my friends get together at someones place and we split the bill on snacks or sometimes ingredients for a proper meal, since we weren’t invited to eat, but to just hang out. A proper dinner invitation is different tho.
That’s why pot lucks are so big in the US no one is on the hook for everything & everyone contributes in some way based on their individual income.
@@bhart3321 We definitely do those too, but I didn’t want to make a super long comment explaining everything. I would say potlucks are more of a thing amongst younger adults, because so many don’t yet have the money to host a full dinner for their friends.
Of course there is the version that people of any age do sometimes, which is that the guest might bring the wine/beer for the dinner.
There are cases of paid invitation in Asia. You just didnt heard of, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist
@@Shawn-jg2ul Huh?? I never said it’s not real
@@prabhakar0002 Did you mean to reply to the other person?
Most Europeans are much colder than Americans in general
Totally disagree! As an European living in the USA my experience is that Americans seem nice and much warmer in the beginning but you quickly realize that is total and utter phoniness! Especially in a work environment those movies on backstabbing co-workers, which I thought was only an Hollywood creation for box office success really do exist! I have worked in several European countries and maintain friendships with my co-workers till this day. In the USA even those co-workers that you see everyday and talk on the phone after work, once they move on to another job and you no longer work with them, that is it, no more contact. So you realize the whole thing is just fake.
@@klimtkahlo I totally agree with you, this happens exactly the same thing here in Canada
As an American, I would say that people from our country tend to be friendly, but not nice.
Some are colder for sure. The thing is that unlike the Americans, Europeans are true to themselves and aren’t gonna fake it if they don’t like you just to keep up appearances and be polite. Fake over friendliness is a plague for real…🙄
@@klimtkahloPrecisely, and we aren’t honest either. We say nice things to people and talk about tne behind their back, sugarcode things, and agree to do things like hangout when we never intend to do them.
Nigerians skip the wedding ceremony but show up to the dinner 😂😂😂.
Same with Indians, can’t miss that delicious wedding cake!
@@Shankar-Bhaskar Yes,so true 😂.Even if you are a stranger you can just walk in for the feast and nobody will say anything😂
I shared a room with a dutch guy. His solution to not cooking for himself was for me to buy twice as much and cook. I told him no.
@@redleeks6253thats totally Not their mindset, Stop spreading lies
@@marvin2678 That’s western European men general mindset.
Edit: Go to your mommy. Let her tuck you in.
@@marvin2678 That’s western European men general mindset.
@markbigelow what a terrible roommate and horrible human being!
I have totally different experiences, but I live here for only 56 years so what do I know. Maybe find some friends that are not broke all the time 😂 By the way don’t wait for weddings here, there are hardly any nowadays and if they happen it’s just a formality. Wedding parties are just not a thing anymore.
in netherlands you need appointment to meet your parents .
I’m so glad I was raised to be independent and not need my mummy for every little thing even as an adult.
@@danidejaneiro8378???
Why are the dutch like this?
If soemone made me paid for dinner that they made for me when they invited me over their house, I would never go over their house for dinner ever again 😜
Yeah our association ends there.
I like The Latin influenced culture, Spanish,Italian and even Filipino— 10 people are invited to a party— cook for 30. They encourage you to take home leftovers.
With islamic countries that’s our standard.
I think it’s just with the Northern European culture they have such things. Almost everywhere, even in India everytime we have a party people would bring strangers with them to eat at the feast.
Of course, you can feed a whole neighbourhood for twenty cents in Philippines. Can’t even get a slice of bread for that in NL
@@danidejaneiro8378 people earn accordingly in Philippines too. NLers earn way more than that. Imagine being miserable even regarding a feast which is supposed to be the most lavish thing in one’s life.
@@rahulvats95 – banquets can be lavish when you can buy everything in the market for a dollar
As a Dutch woman I have never understood this. I take pride in being a good hostess and cannot imagine letting people go home hungry let alone sending a Tikkie afterwards.. If I get married I would rather invite a smaller group of people but make sure they are well taken care off. I guess that’s just how my parents raised me 🤷🏼♀️
In socalled oriental generous and exuberant marriages you have to pay by hanging papermoney on the bride. So people pay for their invitation.
Talking about being stingy.
Same thing happened to me in Germany had to pay money to host after eating dinner she said don’t tell her husband was american so shocked
Omg, I can’t believe this. In Turkey, hospitality and warmth are everything. Of course, guests do not have to pay anything. That would be an insult to the host.
The 2 groups thing for wedding, has started to appear in my country too some years ago, and it’s utterly disgusting and unacceptable.
A second cousin did this to me and my brothers, we were only invited to the Church, and not the ceremony – party that follows… we’ve cut off all communications with them after that, and rightly so. It’s a HUGE insult.
Yeah i thought so too, Like i dont wanna be the Second choice only
Yeah, at least make it on separate days so its not too obvious. Otherwise, just have a wedding with the smaller circle and be done with it.
It happens also in France and I told my fiancée choose either it is someone we want ans he’s there for the whole thing or just don’t
Why would you even have communications with your second-degree cousin in the first place? Like what is there to cut off
And here in India, we invite whole city for dinner in wedding😂😂.
Indians must be rich
@@danidejaneiro8378no it’s mostly because it’s cheaper and a lot of people know each other so the caterer gives discounts, people use their network and gets stuff done like – hey I know this and this person he can arrange the flowers or do the stage or something and the cousins + whole family puts in money for things here and there. So all shared and everyone has a good time.
I am Dutch, but I guess I’m lucky to have never ran into people asking me to pay for a homecooked meal… I don’t think I would ever eat there again.
But is that two group thing true😮?
Not always, but some people invite the people closest to them to diner and all other people only to the ceremony and after party. I haven’t been to a wedding personally where they had a seperate dinner. The weddings I attended started with a ceremony and ended with a party that had tons of food included.
@@hopmanlisa that’s ok. In general the after party is usually organised at a separate place so that you don’t have to tell people to leave and some others to stay, the people who are invited for more informal after-party simply know the other location and show up there after the main ceremony ends while others leave for their homes. Obviously only closed ones are invited there.
Here in our “developing country”, sometimes even people just passing by tour street gets invited to eat.
Americans are some of the most generous kind people you will ever meet. ❤
As a child living briefly in the Netherlands, once me and my friend were coming home from sports activities and went directly to his house. His parents told me, either you can sit there watch TV or stay outside until Jeroen (my friend) finishes his dinner knowing exactly we were both hungry as children 😂😂😂 the Dutch are extremely tight fisted wanting to save every penny 😂
Wow that’s shitty. I guess they thought it was justified since they couldn’t pre-plan for the food. I think it sucks