How And WHEN To Tell A Man You’re ABSTINENT

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• This message is right time…

  • Thank you 🙏

  • ​@@MeetStephanSpeaksI've been literally legally separated from my husband for 8 years before then I was Celibate before we separated with after that I met someone but now that's over I've been literally Celibate for 3 years and I'm absolutely fine with it

• I'm abstinent. Hoping it is the same for the man whom gave me an offer of commitment. People get in the mood from time to time, but no way I am messing that up just for a temporary physical fix when I can have that forever with my forever love.

  • Amen 🙏

• Abstinence:
  Refers to the temporary avoidance of sexual activity.
  Can be for a specific period of time, such as during a relationship or for religious reasons.
  May include avoiding all forms of sexual contact, including masturbation.
  Celibacy:
  Refers to a long-term or permanent commitment to abstaining from sexual activity.
  Often associated with religious vows or a personal decision to live a life without sex.
  May extend beyond sexual activity to include romantic relationships and other intimate connections.
  Key Differences:
  Duration: Abstinence is temporary, while celibacy is long-term or permanent.

  • Yes. Grew up in the Catholic faith and this is what I was taught. We were encouraged to stay abstinent until marriage. Religious folk like priests and nuns took vows of celibacy.

  • ​@@Wa7kr Yet, the nuns get raped and the priests do the raping and molesting after taking said "vows"?

• Get out my head! You're right on time with this one. Sending you 🫂

  • I appreciate that 🙏

• I’m a celibate woman of faith. I gracefully and casually let it be known only after the gentleman expresses interest in exploring a potential relationship. I do not wish to mislead anyone, not even for a minute.

  This is a choice in as much as being a vegetarian is a lifestyle choice. Assuredly, I know I hold much more value than merely sharing my body. There is SO much MORE to me.

  Look, it’s pretty simple with me, I’m an affectionate lover who loves to love, cuddle and fall asleep with one man. I give myself — heart, mind, and body, catering to one man. Praying for one man. Knowing how I can become attached when sexually involved, I prefer to abstain from sex. I’m holding on to having my own man who loves, understands, and is mutually committed to building together. Until then, and after then, other folks can keep their messy, sneaky link culture. Respectfully, my soul ain’t for sharing.

  • Amen 🙏

• Before I met my ex-husband I was celibate for 14 1/2 years. When we met and the relationship began to move towards being serious. We had a discussion about celibacy. We both had NO ISSUES with it. We completely agreed.

  We got married, our first night together was when we got married. Now, that we've gone our separate ways. When I speak to men and we maybe headed towards a serious relationship. I explain to them that I believe in celibacy before marriage. I explain my reasons during a casual conversation. While we're expressing our EXPECTATIONS in a dating relationship. It's very clear on where we stand. Casual conversations about this is definitely the best way to do it.

  Thank you, Stephan!

  • Thank you for sharing this with us 🙏

  • @@MeetStephanSpeaks You're very welcome 😁

• I weeds out the ones that will waste your time ....

  • Amen 🙏

• When I say RIGHT ON TIMEEEE!! Scary almost 😂

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• I'm an abstinent woman & I am going on 2 years. I was married for two decades & i have been working on myself since my divorce 2.5 years ago. I CHOOSE not to have sex because there is nothing casual about it. I'm intentional on who I give my energy & my time to. I am NOT creating soul ties with men I have no business creating a soul tie with. After my divorce, I messed up waddling in my pain & depression. I allowed my emotions to dictate how I moved. I learned there are lying, manipulating, and conniving men that prey on vulnerable women. It was a hard lesson learned, but it was a LESSON indeed. I am taken time to know me & love on me. I've learned what I like about me, what I dislike about me, & I'm still learning how to truly FEEL my emotions. I had to figure out what it was about ME that I didn't like to the point I stayed in a toxic marriage for many years. I say all that to say, being abstinent has brought about a clearer vision for me. I can THINK without my judgment being clouded. My attachment style is anxious attachment & that is something else I needed to work on. I wouldn't have been able to do that WITH sex on the table. I am a new empty nester, just moved away to a new city to start over, new apartment, new work place, & just living right now. ANY man that is interested in getting to know me will have to do so WITHOUT sex. I tell them upfront & allow them to weed themselves out. I needed this message. Thank you! ❤

  • Thank you for sharing your experience and your story 🙏

• I'm waiting until marriage and I relate to the story that was shared. Some men are willing to wait and one of my colleagues shared he was willing to wait even though it was new for him because the young lady he was getting to know was special. He is younger in his late 20s. I was relieved in my last relationship because the man was also waiting already. Ironically, I did announce it when he mentioned living together. However, it did not work out because we never developed romantic chemistry despite having similar values. It felt like a platonic friendship. My preference is to bring it up when the man brings it up. It comes up very soon with men who expect physical intimacy and it typically does not come up with men who are waiting.

  • I hear you 🙏