How Do You Make Him Feel Special? | Relationship Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

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• Amen to all of this!! I have only given positive, uplifting, encouraging words.
  Words of affirmation. Have given total respect to him. He has told me that I have totally changed his life because of the words I've said and how I've said things to him. He shared his heart with me and I understand his heart. We are praying, believing, working together, and looking forward to a wonderful future together. ❤🙏

  • PTL you can have a relationship like that, keep it up!, but there are MANY wives that just LONG for the same response fr their husbands...HAVE tried hard to do the same only to be abused more yet, as the nicer you treat them the worse the abuse, because of increasing their guilt due to them having a "sick" mind n heart bc of being Narsistic...that awful " disease " of a heart not right w God. 🙏 for the many who JUST LONG to be able to pen same words u have here...who HAVE done the same but totally diff response back, suffering in silence behind closed doors.

  • Amen and amen! ❤

  • ​​@@jesussaves4262yes, being in a relationship...married to! a narcissist...so destructive, I remember the feeling of walking into my previous house (not a home!) after church, feeling the joy being sucked right out of me, praying "God you see all that is going on here." Thank God I didn't believe anything my previous husband was saying to me on a daily basis...horrible things...and in front of his sons. May God help those who start to believe those untruths and find support somewhere.
    Now married to an incredibly loving man, I thank God every day for him.
    Have a blessed weekend! ❤

• Herosize not criticize…. LOVE this!! This is my new mantra. Thx Mat 🙏🏻

• I compliment him for his character instead of his look. And I tell him little things that he does and I appreciate

• What I try to do is this:
  *Remember stuff about them and cross reference it during future conversations
  *Seek help in little things, mostly academic and explain it back to them in my own words so that they feel satisfied with their own ability to explain
  *Root for them in the little and big things in their life so that they feel safe enough
  *Compliment them randomly and express my genuine confidence in them
  *NOT agree with everything they say and offering constructive criticism so that they feel challenged
  *Lastly, I dont play games and tell them exactly what id like for myself, if i want daily goodmorning texts or flowers on a date or when im ranting just listen and not try to offer solutions, i just tell them, now its up to them to practice that. This ensures both of us are happy and thus eradicating the chances of a communication gap

  • Thanks for this comment! I’m honing in big time right now on the “how to phrase it” focus. When you say don’t agree with everything he says, how have you learned to phrase your challenge while still remaining in the feminine space? Carrying a decisive confidence without your passion for what you think being too overwhelming?

  • @@whitneylindsay8068 yes i believe i have, but you know what? Being passionate is one of the biggest feminine characteristics you can exhibit and if it is a guy with a non judgemental thought process he would definitely accept your passion and may even find it inspiring or cute hehehe

• Making "my man" feel special:

  * always acknowledging with enthusiasm when he shops & brings home items I mentioned.

  * having his favorite mints available

  * giving his dog 🐕-- his buddy -- special attention

  * cooking his favorite meal 🍽 & sending home some for he & his dog 🐕

• Hi Mr Boggs I have learnt a lot from your videos now I can see how many mistakes I have made previously. Thank you so much for sharing your expertise with everyone

• As far as being selective is concerned, that is no problem for me. My former friends used to always tell me that I'm too picky. I don't get involved with just any ole' man just to have a man in my life. I have no problem going YEARS being alone before dating and getting involved with a man. As far as being uplifting a man goes, I prefer to uplift than to tear down...and that goes for anyone. I can give constructive feedback, if solicited, without being nasty or demeaning. I love to celebrate him and becoming a part of his world is going to be a no-brainer....and effortless.

• I face the inadequacy feelings head-on if something didn't work out. I will say something like, "You have not failed me or the family. Ever you are good to us. We can analyze it to death to try to find some way it may have worked, but there are even more ways that it could have otherwise not succeeded. I see no failure, only your hard work and care. I respect you even more today than I did yesterday. Thank you."

• I was dreamining about growing tomatoes...so he build me a greenhouse. And I can see how happy he his when I go my green house. (A lot). I didn't even ask him to make it. I was just dreaming about tomatoes. And now I have a green house and I keep telling everybody how nice it is.

  I see that for him making me happy is really a priority. And I know he feels really special when he makes me happy 😊

• I take time to connect with him over text messages which is important to him as his love language is 1) quality time, his 3rd one is words of affirmation so I also tell him things that make him feel valued. So between the 2, he feels seen, understood and loved even if we are still dating from afar as he has been gone on a long business trip abroad the next day we connected and I haven’t told him the 3 words yet (he already has!! Snd even asked me to be his gf but I asked him to be patient and wait until he comes back - he has my full attention and he knows that and he also knows that I have been single a while so it takes someone special for me to share my energy and presence.