If You Hear Him Say This, RUN | Dating Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

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• I choose a man with an abundant mindset! 🙌🌟🙌

• If your not changing it, your choosing it! ❤️🤗

• I’ve heard victim mentality with girlfriends, too

• Let’s agree to disagree to me reflects a common ground and actually a flexible mindset that allows disagreement without conflict. I use this with my friend often and it shuts down any disagreements and arguments that are going no where.

  • This can lead to resentment.

  • @ no we both move on like nothing happened. For us it’s a win,win. Because we don’t take our disagreements to heart. We accept each others differences, and holding space for that shows we value our individuality and differences over just a people pleasing type bonding.

  • It could depend on what the matter under discussion might be. If it’s a critical matter, disagreeing may be more serious than “agreeing to disagree” about a Ford versus a Chevy pick up truck.

  • @@Luckyy227sometimes it’s a sign of good self differentiation - we don’t have to agree with our partners 100% of the time.

  • @@tertain yes, but some things shared needs both partners to have a common good/interest and agreement in situations like kids, money, work, living etc the essential things. That’s why it’s important to have that discussion before marriage.

• Thank you Matt. Listening and reflecting over my last breakup, i had some red flags described in my own behaviour, towards him but even more so towards myself. Sobering, i hope I’ll learn from them.

• You are amazing! Thanks!

• I'm dating a man who has had three apparently bad relationships where they took money from him, he is stuck in progressing our relationship due to these "horrible" relationships. I may need to walk away since he does not appear to have a growth mindset.

  • yes good point and that's fabulous you notice and are looking out for yourself.

  • Walking away might be the only thing that convinces him that you're not in it for his money.

  • Walk.
    HE’S the prob. He’s lying.

  • These videos tend to appeal when we’re in the mindset of looking for confirmation of a bad relationship, but if you want to give them a chance to step up you also need to look for positive steps towards trust - even small ones for us sometimes are big for them. If he’s not getting any closer at all, and not willing to build trust, yep, time to go.

• One of the phrases is I love everyone ❤️👍🏻

• these are such great examples. i appreciate the compassion with boundaries taught in this too. people are definitely in a drought around social-emotional skills. the awareness of this empowers me and helps me choose and manage my behavior. thank you!

• Red flags...
  "I don't deserve you"
  "I'm not a good guy"
  "You're like a baby"
  "I love it when you're desperate ",
  "I love you but I'm not in love with you"
  "You're like my mom"
  It's also a red flag when your partner's therapist says condescending stuf about you...

  • Yes, I've learned that if "they" (whichever gender) says that, they're correct! Be polite, but run!