The 3-Part Conversation Formula
Want to be a great conversationalist on your dates? 💬 I have a 3 steps for you!
(This isn’t a script – I don’t want you to become a dating robot. BUT if you often lack confidence talking to people you’re attracted to, let’s work on those conversation skills!)
1️⃣ Give first. Instead of bombarding them with questions, share. This gently encourages reciprocation from the other person. Swap a direct question, “What are you up to this weekend?” For something about you, “I don’t know about you but I’ve had a crazy week, so I’m looking forward to a weekend of book-reading and hot chocolate.” This isn’t hogging the conversation, it’s helping them to open up.
2️⃣ Listen actively (not just nodding, reflect their feeling). Again, be present, the best conversation material is right there for you in their answer. Try paraphrasing what they say back to them “So you….?” This lets them know, “I heard you” and allows them to feel understood.
3️⃣ Acknowledge something you like about them. Choose to progress with someone because you click, not because they’re your only option. “I like how you….” And yes this part should be sincere. Move forwards with people who you feel that genuine click with.
👉 And remember you get genuine clicks, when you’re prepared to talk openly about YOU and to really listen to THEM.
Stop missing connections, start developing your conversation skills. ✨
