These 5 Charismatic Qualities Are Huge Red Flags | Dating Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

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• Thank you for dropping another amazing video Matt. I had an entanglement with a narcissist in the past. A huge red flag, outside of those specified in this video, was his need to butter me up anytime he could tell that I was questioning his behavior 🤔🧐 He would start giving me compliments, but the norm was talking about him. He would even try to get me to laugh at him in one way or another. His energy, to simply put it, was draining 😢 Lessons can be learned from a narcissist 😊

• Thank you so much Matt! I have seen one & live with this kind of person. You are very right ! All the 5 charismatics you talked about are so True!

  • Glad this helped ❤️

• Thank you so much Matt. The timing is perfect for me. Intuition is key but sometimes we get confused. Thank you. ❤

• Did you read my journal? LOL! Many scenes and tales from my dating life! Thanks for putting words and common sense advice to these often overlooked realities.

  • Right?! Glad this resonated

• Great advice. I went out with someone who didn't ask any questions about me. He felt asking questions is being nosey. Weird.

• You are seriously the most brilliant relationship coach out there these days... What an amazing video, thank you Mat!!!!

  • I’m soaking in the compliment. Thank you ❤

  • ​@@matboggsI wholeheartedly agree. During my last dating phase, I discovered you here, dear Mat.
    Because of destructive self-assumptions, insecurity, and confusing experiences in the past, I sought some guidance and enlightenment in this field. And thanks to this channel, I managed to recognize my sweetheart at just the right time and not let it go. That was five years ago, going strong.
    I watched at a lot of dating coaches at the time, but Mat, you are clearly the best one of them all, hands down. I still come here from time to time. Keep up the great work! Your advice is important and I appreciate you very much for that.
    All the best wishes from Germany

• I have always been drawn and destroyed by this type of guy.... time and time again. Thank you for this video.....I am going to work hard on realizing and not get caught up in the "high" and see these red flags and running NOT walking away!!! 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩❤️❤️

  • You got this!

• I noticed many of those qualities in me. I'm a woman and never realized my behaviour can be seen as that. I just get exited very soon and very strong about a man, who seems a great guy. Usually get myself into trouble... 😂 Thank you! Maybe I learn to slow down my emotions.

• Thank you so much I’m getting better at spotting and yes taking it slow is the best approach, observing actions, patterns. Eventually they will reveal themselves.

  • Right on!

• This is an interesting list… I’m dating someone who has exhibited some of these but the big difference is that he’s consistent in his words and actions, takes me into consideration in everything, is reliable and takes accountability. Thing is, if I had my walls up and had assumed the worst possible scenario of everything when dating him, I would’ve likely ended things in the first couple of months out of fear of getting hurt. Instead I decided to believe he was genuine and gave him time to see if he really was the real deal. We’ve been together for 7 months, I’ve met his family and he’s met mine and our love just keeps getting deeper. So yes be cautious, but don’t let these qualities scare you off either. Patience, observation and an open heart with a healthy amount of scepticism is the way to go.

  • Good advice - taking things slow is the key

  • @coffeefordinner Ok, but what if he is (was) consistent and words were followed by action, but he was showing ignorance and no empathy for me?
    All went well, Christmas was approaching, he wished "all the best for Christmas and New Year", and I said I fell sick with a flu, but he didn't react at all. No "get well soon" or smth. Just nothing.

    At the beginning of January, he wrote again "hoping you had amazing festive time" and "all the best for the New Year" and wanted to catch up and to meet for a dinner in January at some point. I thanked him wishing all good things as well but restated that Christmas time was not unfortunately fun time, as not only me, but as well my kids got sick with flu after, so we all spent festive time with a fever and in bed. But said we could meet eventually for the dinner at some point, not specifying the date as I was still regenerating from disease.

    And he didn't reply again.
    I waited to hear from him, but it's already 2 months, so I guess he just ghosted me.

    Not sure if I'm overthinking this, but I believe a person should have empathy generally, and esp. if they are interested in someone.

    Or am I wrong?

    Thank you for your reply 🙂

  • ​@@lightl287 It's a clear sign to move on. He shouldn't even be occupying your mind to even ask about him after so long. When people ghost you, leave the graveyard.