This is the HARDEST Part of Living in Germany π©πͺ
Nicole, a Bolivian raised in the USA shares the most difficult aspect of living in Germany, compared to the USA.
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Cologne, Germany
I have never been to Germany but I would bet that people in rural parts of any country will treat you much better no matter the country.
True. City folks are…unbecoming
It’s because of cohesion
Unfortunately it’s often a City ( Metropolis) mentality,no one gives a f##k!!
I experienced the same
Not necessarily. I was an aupair in a remote German village and this one family in the neighbourhood only ever stared at me. I tried to get their help with something once, they could see I needed help, but they just looked at me and continued going into their house. I wasn’t a complete stranger, I lived a few houses down. Maybe they didn’t appreciate having outsiders in their village. I never felt so ignored and rejected in my life.
The other way around is often the same. As a worker asking german customers “Can I help you”, they often stare at you like “what do you want from me?”π
A balance would be good, don’t press costumers but neither ignore them
I think I wld say ‘ I’m not bugging u,but if u need any help,don’t hesitate to ask& then a little π & then I f##k off!
I’d say germans usually upon entering the store already know what they want and what they will buy so any sort of “help” a.k.a. trying to upsell them is not really necessary and maybe they consider it even rude, like, what does this seller think i am naive and he can trick me into spending more money that i want. i know this because it’s similar where i live as its influenced by same german culture.
I used to work retail and the best way is to say hello and let them know you are over here if they have questions. That gives both of you space.
β@Lafemmefutile I work in retail, and a hello with a genuine looking smile is the best way. Heck, some customers don’t take well even to that and won’t respond to your hello. I assume they are nervous shoplifters or they think I’m “only” saying hello because it’s my job. Yeah, I might be, but polite society requires that you respond politely.
Strange, I found the service quite good in Germany, and people were smiling. Earing this looks like she’s talking about Portuga π π l
She said Germany for heaven’s sake.
@@sucram1018
He said “this LOOKS like” for heaven’s sake.
Depends on the region in GER. π
How odd, Iβve been to Germany and my experience was that most people were very polite and helpful. Maybe it just depends on what part of Germany you are travelling to.
I thought Germans behaved in bad mood only with me π
See there’s a saying in germany. Something like: “The way how you shout ( into the forest) makes the echo.”
Maybe not the worst idea to give it a try and change voice or mindset the next time…π€·
I agree with this. The woman on the left (channel owner I think) seems sort of entitled, and for a Youtube channel that seems to be about making people from different cultures connect in some way, she sure does have a pretty narrow-minded and unthinking perception of what it means to be in a different country with different people who may think differently from what she may be accustomed to. As a German, I hope she stays far away from our country moving forward.
@@cedrikullrich4298daaaamn π
Mixed experience for me. Some were friendly and helpful, some were in bad mood and annoyed to serve you. You just could never tell what kind of response you would get. On average, more aggressive people than in my home country.
True! Greetz from Germany. π π«Ά
“What do you want” is straight forward. if you want shoes for a wedding, you say that you need shoes for a wedding. And you will get fitting suggestions.
Hint: be straight forward.
How may I help you is straight forward without being a doofer von shnowzer
I recently came back from Berlin and had a generally pleasant experience with the people. The only time had a frigid experience was going thru customs for a connecting flight. The customs agent was conversational to people before me and then it was my turn and she turned into an ice queen. brrrrr..
Why do u think that was? And I historically they’re not big Anglo ( be that Brit or American) fans!
β@@jerryoshea3116Most of the time they Like brits but Not americans
@@cogitoergosum9129That’s interesting, I always thought it was more a case of respect than like with the British! But i’m not sure why they dislike the Americans..Unless it’s the Economic and Military Power that does it!!
@@jerryoshea3116 no they Like the people but they don’t like the war politics for example.
Sadly, in general Northern Europe mainland is cold like a freezer.
Fact is, we take this insanity until a certain point and, then it stops 100%
If only they had anything to have this cold arrogance in…they have nothing and, should you decide to read the reports about them all, what I’ve just written here, is just a fragment of the reality!!
Why on Earth visit such unjustified anger/often direct hate!?
What culture is she from?
I have been living with a German tourist at an Airbnb for a month. She is friendly, but also extremely direct. I am sure that directness is a shock to people who are from overly warm cultures. (Don’t forget, 90% of employees smiling are just faking it because they have to).
Customer service isn’ t a Thing in Germany. Expecially women are extremely rude…. lived there for 7 years
Yeah some German women Are very rude, more than men
Same experience
I am from Northern Europe, so Germans seem very polite (too polite) and very talkative (make small talk with strangers, which never happens in my home country).
Born, raised and living here for 30 years. The customer service changes a bit I’m Germany. When I was a kid or teenager there more unfriendly Cashiers and other service people. But nowadays it’s very rare to be treated unfriendly in my opinion and experience.
Nicole is from a Bolivian-German family, for reference βΊοΈ
And I haven’t been able to expand on my experience due to the short video, but basically the girl working at the store stood there incredibly bored wearing a hoodie so for a long time I couldn’t figure out — was anyone working there? She saw me looking for help and did nothing but look bored. Finally, she approached in a very hostile manner as if to say – why are you disrupting my break? I heard of similar situations from a friend of mine who mentioned a cashier yelled at an old lady for taking a plastic fork without asking her first. And same happened when I flew Lufthansa and the flight attendant was really mean – yelling at everyone to pull up their masks (this was during Covid). Again, this is not to say it happens all the time, but it can happen.
Thanx.
Lufthansa are the worst,I will never forget that situation I was in,they moved me from my chair to let a man sit next to his wife then they move me to let a mum sit next to her daughter and when they tried the third time,the bloody fkn pilot asks the security if the airport for remove me from his fkn flight,and guess what happened to that mother fkr,the plane stopped from the airport,and I received an apology of a new seat in 1st class.
Wow I wasnβt expecting that from germans. Guess thatβs ground reality there haha. Also is this in all cities or just a specific place?
@@Me_di yes sadly it is their true nature,sorry for good Germans but they are minority π
Ooh! This was good! Is there a longer video?
Not yet π
Maybe we should send the Karenβs to Germany to appreciate what they find the US customer service more
I was satisfied with the customer service (stores, markets, restaurants) in Germany, and even approached and asked if I needed help with something. Sure, they do not have US-style sunny disposition, but they didn’t strike me as rude – more like ‘polite but cold’. U-Bahn staff, on the other hand…
Enjoy the freedom of being ignored!
To be honest as a Pole I think that everyone should be treated politely hovewer, I disagree that employees should display the attitude of servitude towards you just because you have money and are a client. Client is not a king in Germany and Poland, client is an equal. We all should treat each other respectfuly during shopping experience.
From what I learned, the German language can sound harsh to non native speakers as paired with their directness, also something that most cultures may not be used to. That is why it’s a good idea, in my opinion, to spend more time with them and ask as many questions and learn as much as you can to better understand them. ππ