Top 10 Most Common Mistakes Women Make on a First Date (Number 4 RUINS 49% of All First Dates)
Mat Boggs shares relationship advice for women and the top 10 most common mistakes women make on a first date.
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First dates are hard, especially when you're entering the dating pool and unsure of where to start! Make sure that you are setting yourself up for success and not making one of the 10 most common mistakes women make on a first date.
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So True, Mat. My first date with my future husband Rick was lunch at a restaurant I said I liked.
He was chivalrous – opening doors, etc – which I love. After we were seated, the 1st thing Rick did was ask our server for his name. Rick spoke to our server by name for the duration of our meal. I Loved that he treated that person like a person. It demonstrated respect, humility & gratitude.
My husband did that every time we ate out for the 36 yrs we were married – until he passed away.
Sorry for your loss 🙏🏻
Beautiful story ✨
Sounds like a lovely man. My condolences for your huge loss❤
❤
Too sweet 😢
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It’s a big turnoff when the date starts asking about sex: when was the last time, what position do you like, etc. Dude, I don’t know you well enough yet!
People kept asking me what was wrong with me because I wasn’t going on second dates. Ask for sex on a first date and I know there us no respect for me and it’s over before it started. Bye.
Yeah that truly is a cringe. Stay away from having sex in dating. That’s foe a relationship.
@@gaillewis5472
I’m 78 and I went on 3 dates with a man who was so kind and opened doors walked on the outside of the sidewalk with me, took my hand when crossing streets, bought a hot coffee on a chilly morning at the beach. BUT THE 2nd DATE WAS DIFFERENT. He did all the gentleman courtesies but he began to ask personal questions like you mentioned or make sexual innuendos 🥴😱! I told him those questions and actions were intrusive and disrespectful so early in our dating. He reined it in some but I could tell he was still in that mode of wanting to pursue that line of talk. He called me early the next day n asked if I go for breakfast. He apologized for his actions the day before. I was reluctant but accepted. All hell broke loose when we had made it through a nice breakfast and he was taking me home. He wanted me to spend the rest of the day with him. I had to refuse because I had arranged to meet with family members later for dinner. He was annoyed then, began to ask his vulgar suggestive questions again. I just refused to give him answers and I let him go quiet a bit. I said thanks for breakfast and made some small talk. Then I asked him to stop at the next 7/11 store I wanted to purchase something. He did. I reached in the back seat retrieved my jacket and after I got out I still had the car door open and I leaned in and said “ WE ARE FINISHED 👊🏻! I WALKED IN THE STORE AND CALLED AN UBER TO TAKE ME HOME😊!! I deleted and blocked him from my contacts. He was so stunned that he didn’t know what to say. He just stared at me and quickly drove off in his sports car👏. NO MORE IF THAT 💩👎🏻
Don’t just date anyone. Pray about this. God doesn’t want you disrespected.
Ughhhhh
Lift others up.
Don’t complain.. Say good or stay silent.
Focus on how you feel and if YOU are having a good time. Be present.
If they compliment you, say thank you.. Accept it.
Keep it light.. Don’t ask too mush.. Don’t share too much..
💖
A bartender actually saved me on a first date by showing me the true nature of my date.
My original perspective of what happened:
Date took me to a bar he was familiar with. The bartender filled my date’s drink a bit too full and when giving it to him, a small amount spilled on date’s hand.
My date blew up.
I attempted to calm him down telling him it was an accident but he was so arrogant and accusing the bartender of doing it on purpose.
We left shortly after and date was horrific to the bartender even as we were leaving, all the while the bartender was looking at me in a very calm manner.
I was young, 19, but it all struck me as odd. I ended the date a bit later and declined further dates even though the man was clearly wealthy.
Found out much later the source of his wealth was illegal activities on the side of his legal business ventures. He drugged women that were naive and had no relatives near and entrapped them into prostitution.
I realized that bartender suspected or was familiar with this.
I now wish I had gone back and thanked him.
Pro-tip: a man who takes you to a bar for a first date doesn’t respect women.
@@KathrineJKozachok Not necessarily.
One time I waited too long (for 2 weeks) to write to the man I met online in the app I had not been using (he gave me his nickname on the dating website without asking if it was convenient for me to move to that app, I thought it was a red flag but decided to give him a chance), so after I finally contacted him he got pissed how it had taken me so long to write to him. Ohhh, well.🤦♀️🙄 Blocked/deleted
@Paula Haller – Wow! What story! Bartender was giving you a TIP … indirectly !
@@paulahaller says the woman who’s judgment got her into this situation
I occasionally watch “tips” videos as a source of humor. But, this guy has genuine good tips.
I’ve been out with both men and women who do not look at the waiter/waitress while ordering or asking questions and it always bothers me. I think looking at someone acknowledges them and is therefore respectful.
It is 100% respectful and humanizing.
It depends on what country they’re from. In the US it’s normal to look people in the eyes when talking to each other. In some countries it’s a bad thing.
One question people ask on a first date that is a big conversation killer is “so, why are you single?”. It’s the most odd question … are you suggesting being single is a bad thing? Or, that there must be some reason that I’m single that I’m supposed to explain to you? Is there really an answer to that question since we are all single for a variety of reasons! It’s personal and invasive. It’s so common though!
Had a guy chat me up and I wasnt interested and told him I was happily single and he wouldnt believe me. Im not actively looking at the minute. Genuinely happy with my life as it is right now. That might change in future
By choice not chance cuz I’m smart. Shuts them up every time
@16bronzebow04you can tell him, I’m single because I have standards and not everyone can measure up to my standards. I value myself and I’m not going to accept less than what I deserve. Or say something similar. Usually men mull this over and realize that’s a legit reason to be single
Better question, ‘do YOU know why you are single?’
@jackdeniston59 yes, I like that. Flip the question. “First tell me why you’re single…”
Throwing litter out the window of the car. Total deal-breaker. Said a lot.
😂What kind of litter?😜
How disrespectful.
I was out with a guy who threw a bottle out the window. I made him get out and retrieve it.
If I walk away from a first date and I know way too much information about him and he knows nothing about me it’s not a good feeling at all. I feel I could chalk it up to being nervous, but I’ve actually realized it is his fault for not wanting to know more about you. Moving along…..
Start the car!
. Checking other women out or expressing how he thinks that someone else is hot while with you ! Big turn off to me
The #1 thing that I have experienced with guys is the dateview. I am older, and I just wait for those questions, because they come every time. Why aren’t you with someone already, followed by, how many times have you been married. The other inevitable one: do you like to cook? Let’s just say, I do not overshare, and I am not interviewing for the job of cooking.
#2 Expecting a kiss on the first date. It’s like, I paid for dinner, this better lead to intimacy. Nope.
#3 talking about themselves and not trying to get to know me. You might be nervous, but if you don’t show more interest on date 2, I’m out.
Yep. My problem is I’ve ended up isolating now, and definitely have no desire to put up with the online route anymore.
….and you are still, and always will be, single.
@@jackdeniston59 Lol. I see by your channel comments that you are an incel troll. How is that working out for you?
As long as she is happy and has her peace, there is nothing wrong with it. 😌
Most woman I know over 60+ are happy and more peaceful and content being single and are actually not looking for anyone, because they don’t need the extra burden and have a good social cycle.
It is mostly the men at 60+ who look for a caregiver 😆
There is a reason why single woman live longer while single men don’t.
If a men at that age still can’t take care of themselves as well as there household, they are basically big infants.
@@Minadori123 You are so right. I am a nurse with a purse, so basically I do get pursued, but here’s the thing: a man is not a plan. I have stopped the online match making and am living very happily as an independent single in a beach and golfing community. I like guys. I appreciate them, but I am not strategizing to “get” one. 😂
A first date, I’ve learned is this.
To see if there’s:
1. Chemistry.
2. Things in common.
3. Learn each other’s values, standards, deal breakers.
4. Goals and if you some in common.
5. If you see/feel red flags, listen.
I had a first date with what I perceived as a nice guy. Church going, deacon in the church, etc. Ohhh boy was I wrong. First date he was way too forward, talked about himself all the time, never asked me questions etc. 30 minutes into date, I knew this was never going anywhere.
End of date he was forward and asked for a kiss and a hug. Nope.
AND then texted me all night long as if we were in a relationship!!! Had to block him on everything.
Now another first date, the man was sweet. Nice first date. We laughed etc. But by end of date we both said there’s no chemistry here but boy we could be best friends.
That’s been a few years ago now. I’m in great relationship with a great guy and I’m soo happy. 😊
Wait, so you became friends with the guy and then dated? Or you stayed fitness with the one guy, then met someone else you’re currently dating?
@@ElaBB2020 1st date church going creep.
1st date, another guy, just friends.
1st date, 3rd guy, in a relationship 6 years now.
You decide no chemistry after the first date? Too soon. Feelings can grow after you get to know eachother.
The first guy probably talked about himself because he liked you and wanted to share about himself. Maybe too much but, I would have gone out with them at least 3 times. But that’s me. 🤪
Usually it’s the church men who are the worst. Been through that,too!
@Lauradahl-creations this guy talked at restaurant about his previous dates in detail. Sexual detail. You would not have given him a second date unless you wanted to be talked about. He was a control freak.
And yes after one date, there was no chemistry there and we both felt it.
I went out with a guy who was extremely rude to a flight Attendant and called her a B and I never went out with him again. He came from a wealthy family too.
“The purpose of a first date is to determine if there’s a second date” – A smart woman in Calif.
I always get sex on the first date
Rejection is Protection. I’ve had many one date wonders recently because the guys I went out were having issues in their life (Covid has made dating difficult) and they don’t do any inner work to heal wounds and trauma. One guy laughed at my self help work. He texted me the next day to say he felt no romantic connection – I told him I felt the same and then he got mad lol. I dodged a bullet with a narcissist. Thank God.
Just when I was about to loose my lover to another man, this great MAN came through to help with his spells and I’m forever grateful 💞🙏 #dragege
The “Rejection is protection” is so powerful I can’t tell you how many times it’s helped me ground back into my truth and elevate myself out of a hole. SO POWERFUL. And 100 % you dodged a bullet. If the guy ever finds the inner work he will look back at his laughing at your book and cringe! Sending happy vibes ❤
@@itssarahduffstyle If he really is a narcissist, he won’t ever look back, they never do
Amen sister! Same experience.
@Michael Howington You have an interesting definition of being disagreeable.
The biggest turn-off for me on a first date is when the man doesn’t listen to me when I talk.
For way too many people, both men and women, there is talking, and there is waiting (to talk again), instead of listening.
That is also probably nerves
THIS.
you say something and it was like you said nothing at all because their response has no relevance
I don’t understand why men give you BS after the first date about calling you and getting together again but then ghost you. Why can’t they be honest? Just end it by saying it was great to meet you and leave it at that!
Because he simply added you to his roster of women who interest him, but _to him_ you fell short on some of his standards or preferences and so he hopes to find someone better. But if he doesn’t: he has you as a back up, and why a man leaves that door open. So when a man ghosts: BLOCK and delete and move on!
@@jessitabonita All true, but there can be one more reason : they do not want to hurt you but do not know how to tell you without hurting you either. Normal men do not want to hurt women. That’s why they better ghost or go silent.
He’s a narcissist.
At least 35 years ago..I went on a first date, I still remember not being able to eat my dinner because he was grilling me so hard, I just stopped eatting…dont remember his name or even what he looked like, but years later remember the anxiety of that date !!
Lol😂Sorry that you had to go through that nightmare!
Next time, say, “Do you have a point?…Is there specific information you’re seeking?…Your grilling is making me sick to my stomach. Drop fork…Can you boil that down to one pertinent question?…Do you have any questions I should be asking you?”
Table manners
Negativity
Questions about your current online dating
Being late for the date (huge turn off)
Using bad worlds (slam) on the first date
.. and the list goes on lol
Thank you so much for sharing this video 😊
Questions about online dating? Personally I wouldn’t want to date a serial dater.