Want To Keep Their Attention? DO NOT CHASE; Do THIS Instead | Dating Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

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• I used the strategy of matching his energy and pulling back little by little. If I wanted to do something and he didn’t, I went to the function alone. I did things alone and posted pics on my fb or IG pages to show I was alone but having a great time hanging out with me. I have always been ok being with me. If I wanted to go to the movies and he didn’t I would never miss out because he didn’t want to. I taught him how to treat me. Once he saw that I was still enjoying life he got a little curious and nosey and wanted to hang out with me and started planning dates. It took me not caring if I went out to eat alone or shopping alone or going to a movies event alone or even hopping on a plane and traveling alone for him to realize that I am who I am… with or without him. He got the message and decided on his own to make that shift and hang out with me more. I never asked him to change. He changed because he cared what mattered to me. 🥰

• This video came at the right time. I've been dating this guy since may 2023. I like him and i know he likes me too. But i saw the sudden changes in his behaviour, i know he's focused on his career right now. But im not chasing anymore and letting it happen naturally. Because i believe if not him then there's someone better.

  • Good choice! Otherwise you will end up miserable with someone who doesn't even care about you and might get mad when you get in between of their goals. It's better to find another person who is in the same page as you.

  • 👏👏👏always remember ., never leave your Goddess within you, no chase, you attract!❤

• I have found when I talk about activities I'm excited to go to often the person that is interested will ask if they can go with you. For example, a fall festival where there will be live music, a variety of food, beer truck and other things going on.

• I remember a little experiment done. Little children were sat down and told “you can have two marshmallows.Or, if you can wait a few minutes till i come back, you can have four.” Some kids wolfed down two. Others waited. The ones that waited were found to be more successful in life later. Dating- we can’t see the better outcome by sticking to standards. We weren’t promised that sticking to standards will result in more reward. So sometimes we give up quickly and want to have him instantly by chasing. When, if we remain happy in what we have in life , so that it’s his investment that moves things forward, it’s the bigger reward. Just believe it’s there waiting for you. The right man will deliver. Be kind. Be genuine. Be open. Stick to standards. The right man who adores you will deliver.

• Hey, Mat. I always spoke with warmth and kindness, but when he pulled away a little, i told him i noticed and that i enjoy his company. And then i left the situation alone. That way, the last thing i said was positive and he doesn’t feel that i’m pinning all my happiness on him. By just leaving things alone, he starts to ask himself what he wants, not feel pressured by what i want. The guy that wanted me, he started texting, calling, and doing a lot more- all on his own. When he started doing more, i would just light up. If he seemed unsure or taking a step back, i was a little harder on him. Not reaching out as much. Not being as flexible to see him. But with kindness. It’s like the saying. It’s not what you say but how you say it. “You haven’t called. I don’t have time for guys who don’t know what they want.” Thats all words. And accusatory. Just say “Wow, i haven’t heard from you in a while. It’s nice to hear from you.” And then nothing. And watch if he tries the get that more happy reaction back. Asks you on a date, talks and reaches out a lot more. Show interest, but not clinginess like you’ve been dying to hear from him. He’ll treat you like crap, if nothing he does makes you drift away a bit.

• This is so awesome & I'm currently practicing it. Thankyou for such practical examples!!

• "If you pull this up, you're going to kill it." Great quote. Going on my bathroom mirror!

• That's how it should be, he's not being chased. Now I know, let him go, let him take care of his life. Thank you Mat

• Thank you for this advice ❤

• CUTE analogy ❤