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• I met a Belgian (from the French side)guy online here in NY and when I expected to meet just him, it was him and his friend at the bar, and his friend stayed with us the rest of the night. He said he would take me to lunch the following day, and surprise, his friend was also there too. Luckily I enjoyed his friend. However, when he didn't try kiss me, which is something most guys try to do, I was a bit disappointed. The next day he wanted us all to go out again and we spent every day together (when I wasn't working). I was wondering if I was in the friendzone. We did meet on a dating app, which would have beeen misleading on his part. However, when we went to a concert he finally made a move and held me close. We continue to get to know each other everyday, he is good at keeping in touch. I read up if this was crazy behavior to hang out as a group, not to be kissed. The answer is yes. Its pretty normal to do have friends be introduced early to those they date. Learning that kissing is a major step in their culture, where it isn't in America, as a sign of commitment. It made me understand that I was in a rush to make it all happen fast. He isn't. We will be spending more time together soon. Hopefully with no friends and more kissing. Yes it is a good idea to know how people court in their culture because they will do things differently.

• I am Latina and was with a Swedish man for 14 years, and we have a child. I don't think I'd want another Swede. Think twice before committing to someone from a very different culture.

• I don't identify with most of the social norms in my culture (Iran) , but the emotional thing is spot on. I don't date Iranian women because generally the expectations they have, do not match what they can offer and what I value in a relationship.
  But for me it's difficult to find someone since I want to show affection and emotions but it is considered unmanly unless I'm dating someone from similar cultures e.g latins. I'm currently in Germany and I think it's the worst possible place for a guy like me to try and date :)

  • Yes, I have a german father and a romanian mother.
    And the difference between those 2 countries is as different as day and night.
    In Germany I often hear if you show affection/emotions "too early" then you're "needy" or something. I don't like that. If I have sympathy or feelings for someone, why shouldn't I show that?
    In Romania it's the opposite. We're not even talking about relationships yet over there, but the romanian people are always more social, emotional, friendlier and happier in general than the Germans.

    Reconsider your thoughts. In Germany you have plenty of people with different foreign backgrounds who certainly don't act that german when it's about dating and realationships. Turkish, Polish, Czech, Romanian, Serbian, Albanian,...

    Otherwise yes man, I agree. When it's about showing affection/emotions, especially in the beginning, I think it can be hard, but not impossible.

• Happy Friday, Marina! As an American 🇺🇲 born of Colombian 🇨🇴 and Honduran 🇭🇳 heritage, I usually prefer dating European women and Latina women although both types have different personalities. My personality is more easy going, go with the flow type and the last few women I have dated have been Europeans as my last girlfriend was a Spanish 🇪🇸 woman but I personally think that dating women from other cultures is a good eye opener to me as it's good to learn about other cultures and backgrounds. If we vibe, we vibe and if we don't vibe, we don't. I do like a feminine woman. This is a great video Marina and sending my love ❤

  If you are ever back in Miami in the future, dinner is on me Marina 😊

• I really love your videos, it’s makes me more aware of why some of date don’t work. Because of your videos I can now search partners that fit me better!

• Super interesting topic and would love to know more! I also liked that you touched on the fact that not all feel like they belong to the culture they grew up in. Would be interesting to hear your perspective on that, or in interviews with people. ❤️

  • Yep, same here. Growing up in Germany under a german father and romanian mother. But I already felt as a child that I might want to emigrate one day bcz I can't see myself acting like a "real German" by 100%.

  • I second this, coz it's my case as well. I don't feel belonging anywhere and to anyone.

• As an American with a Norwegian girlfriend but have dates a Swede, lemme tell ya 😂😂 You’re spot on, but I respect it and love it. It’s odd shutout works for us, I’m typical American; gregarious and super extroverted and handle all of the talking, appointments and reminders of “Sir, her steak is over cooked…” 🤭 She makes sure we’re on time, hyper organized and meticulously structured.

  I’m as southern as the day is long, drawl and all, so manners are king; “yes ma’am, no ma’am, yes sir, no sir..”, opening doors, pulling chairs and giving her my jacket if it’s raining or she gets cold. I love every second of it

  I’m so glad you made this, as too many folks see the “sexy” side of dating other cultures, but man, there’s A LOT of nuance and other things that can break both of you if you’re not careful and deliberate in your learning how to love him/her. It works for us 🇺🇸 🇳🇴🙌🏽

• I’ve suffered racism from the females in my country and that’s what has pushed me forward to follow your channel and thinking seriously about finding a girl from other countries

  • Which country are you from?

• Toronto guy here….. trust me it is fun to date outside your comfort zone

• Im a filipino male married to a Lebanese/Armenian lady from Sweden. Our cultures are somewhat similar. Been married for 19yrs. It's an odd pairing since most Lebanese girls don't marry outside their cultures.