What Women Want vs What Men Want in a Relationship | Dating Advice for Women by Mat Boggs #shorts
Mat Boggs shares dating advice for women and What Women Want vs What Men Want in a Relationship #shorts
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I love when you explain… Your tone of your voice is just enough and calmness. I’ve watched a lot of videos they scream so much and loud… 😅
This is true. Unfortunately the only man who provides this 100% of the time is a girl’s father and not even all dads do that anymore.
Someone I can ALWAYS trust has my best interests at heart- Far too often, I’ve experienced many men underlying motives and perhaps it’s their lack of understanding women with Asperger’s
So, what do men need to feel??? Come on now, Mat! What a way to leave us hanging! 😂
hi
Could you share information on how a woman can feel safe on online dating when you were advise not to give out your email or phone number, but would like to literally talk to the person of interest
I’m a female, yet I thought – Loved and happy.
Safe and secure didn’t even cross my mind!
Thats hopefully because you’ve not been abused and had to live your life in fear …but for me Safety was even more important than Love. Am so grateful to finally have found both age 55
I guess men want to feel important and valued. So do women, but I think they are of highest priority for men.
Men don’t understand why we feel unsafe and they continue to treat women like second class citizens
Men want to feel desired by a woman and then appreciation for their manly qualities.
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No ready for one.
Most man don’t say it I don’t know y how they feel
Same here Matt..what guys feel ? I guess mostly need to feel needed, providing
I understand that what men want to feel is respect.
hi how are you doing
Eh, i feel like the men that ive been with rely on me heavily for emotional support. Its important that im a safe person to talk to. They want security and comfort.
Lol, nope.
@@tylerdurden3722 I remember, reading some thing like 70% of suicides committed by young men (teen to 20s) had something to do with a girl. Men act impervious, but we have a lot of power to esteem them.
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Men commiting suicide doesn’t mean men want safety and comfort.
What men want, on the deepest levels of our souls, is to provide safety and comfort to a significant other, family etc.
It gives us a sense of purpose that’s so strong that we’re almost happy to die to provide and maintain that (it’s how we know we love someone when we find ourselve being strangely comfortable with an idea that should logically be disturbing. Losing such an insanely strong sense purpose feels worse than death and sends men into dispair.
Men know from a young age, that if they do not at least work on developing the physical and behavioral traits, skills, success, etc in order to provide adaquate safety and security to potential partners, his success in romantically attracting and interacting with women will become a depressing reality. It results in him not being able to find that purpose, yet deeply yearning for it in the depths of his soul.
When men interact with women, ultimately women inadvertently judge men as either adaquate or inadaquate in his competency to provide safety and security. Men are either rejected or found attractive…and in this way men discover their worth in the eyes of the very same beings that men feel the need to find that purpose in.
When it comes to higher suicide rates in young males relating to interactions with girls, these are the factors:
1. Women initiate 80% of break ups.
2. Women have much higher rates of attempts at suicide, but their prefered methods is less fatal. The methods men employ are typically more decisive.
3. Young men are more impulsive than women. A young female’s prefrontal cortex (the portion of the brain involved in certain types of decision making) is about 2 years ahead of the average young male of the same age.
4. Boys are more likely to have ADHD. Another contributor.
5. There are more corrolations: sex drive, immune system, and many other things and yes this includes males being less likely to talk about their struggles (due to both biology and culture).
But the core point is, that you completely misunderstand the struggle of young males. Their struggle, is the pursuit of being judged worthy to provide and safety and security to women, offspring, etc, by women they are romantically attracted to or invested in.
It sounds harsh, but crying won’t fix the fundimental issue of a man not being judged adaquate by a female that has triggered that insanely strong and strange sense of purpose in him.
Plus, in this situation, it doesn’t make sense to be fully expressive with the person that is the cause of his dispair in the first place. Because:
1. It’s not really the female’s fault, because no human being can consciously choose what they are romantically attracted to or not…or what they lose attraction toward. Nor can she do anything about the attraction she feels.
2. She is unlikely to provide a man with the type of safety and comfort by showing him that she won’t leave him and pretend to still be deeply in love for the rest of her life, etc, dispite her not seeing a future with him.
3. She will feel blamed if he expresses the core issue. I.e. her not feeling as strongly as he wants her to feel about him as if it’s her fault. And she will become defensive as he says how he feels.
The reality is, that if a man wants females to find him more attractive and maintain that attraction through all the phases of a relationship, he has to put in the work for it… and the competition is fierce (there’s no way around this).
Yes, young men do need someone to talk to. What’s required is someone needs to motivate and guide young man do improve themselves so as to achieve the purpose all men yearn for. This requires brutal honesty because just telling him comforting lies won’t fix the cause of his dispair.
If that brutal honesty comes from his partner, it will just increase the dispair.
Plus most women aren’t really prioritizing the man’s wellbeing. They’re more interested in satisfying their own emotional wants (the guy opening up to her). She’s more bothered that the solution offends her, than caring about the man finding a solution. When the guy opens up, she wants to him to say what she wants to hear, not what he is truly feeling.
@Tyler Durden Thank you for sharing this! I hope you don’t mind, but I’ve screen shot this response, so that I can reread it. We women really need to do better, for not only the men in our lives, but for society in general. Thank you for your honesty. 😊
while he hopefully provides you with physical safety he deeply wants emotional saftey from you. This in the simplest of terms is
1: active listening, listening to someones problems without giving advice or tips or making it into a grievance contest, and
2: the knowledege that you will never ever EVER tell somebody else or throw it in his face when you are fighting.
Sadly most men never feel safe enough to open up vulnerably because it has bitten him before and therefore they hide their emotions/problems/flaws from their partner because a man in a relationship with a woman cant expect her to be accepting of his flaws/weaknesses.
We didn’t need you to tell us what we want 😂, we already know. I clicked bc I was curious to know what men want and was disappointed that you didn’t provide an answer, the answer is not hard to guess 😂
This is just a clip from a full video
@@meesamagill1193Where’s the full video pls?
Men!! Where are you,? Tell us what you wanna FEEL?
Peace
@@tylerdurden3722 Peace & respect?
Horny all the time
Safe and treaured
Respected and supported
What are the men saying when they answer the question?
True, above anything else I would like to feel safe and secure❤
Agreed. As soon as he said to close your eyes and imagine what you want to feel like in a relationship, I thought “safe.” Not just safe from physical harm but confident and secure in the love your man has for you.
Men probably need to feel adored and respected. So do women though. I am sure men also want to feel safe but it might not be first on the list.
I think essentially both sides want love and adoration. Call it safety. Call it respect.
The reason why most women can’t figure out what men would feel in a situation related to relationships, is because women confuse sympathy with empathy.
Sympathy is to put your own emotions in the shoes of another person, which requires disguarding that person’s emotions. When employing sympathy, the other person’s emotions is irrelevant.
The result is, you’re only experiencing what you yourself would feel, and not what the other person would feel.
Empathy is the opposite of sympathy. Empathy is to understand another person’s emotions. When employing empathy, your own emotions is irrelevant. You then disguard you own emotions to make space in your shoes for that person’s emotions to put it inside yourself so you can feel their emotions (not your own).
E.g. Imagine seeing a cockroach waling up someone’s leg then imagine how that person would respond.
Using sympathy, one would imagine that person reacting as oneself, and be creeped out.
But using empathy, one would come to understand that person loves and adores cockroach…and using empathy, one would correctly conclude that person being pleasantly surprised and not creeped out. (my sister is one of those people lol she think bugs are cute)
Sympathy is self centered, empathy is selfless.
When it comes to attraction, and relationship emotions, men and women are mostly opposites. Women assume we’re the same, hence why sympathy is automatically erroneously applied (just like in the cockroach situation).
Eeeeeeeeee!!! We need a second video. Or at least an answer, what a cliff hanger! 😂
What do men feel when they visualise their ideal relationship? Thanks Mat! 😊
I know, right? He didn’t explain the men side well. I’m like…and???
They want to have fun, it’s in another video, I don’t know which one
@@maidenavalonneoh true. Cool 🙂 thanks for sharing!
Most men want to feel respected and supported
Women also wants to feel supported and respected.
What are men saying when they are ask what they want?
To have sex with different younger girls
This is a clip from a longer video