When A MAN Has Erectile Dysfunction Do THESE 5 Things

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• He’s 30. It’s happened a few times. I just help him if I can with my hand or mouth. He apologizes and I don’t let him. I tell him “we” got this! I just tell him he’s the best. And he truly is! I don’t make a big deal of it. I tell him I love him so much and we cuddle. Next morning he’s harder than a rock. I think there is no rhyme or reason for him at least. He’s my soulmate. I’ll do anything for him.

• The biggest issue I've come across when dating men with ED ( happened twice) is that they refused to have an honest conversation about it. One was pretending at first that he "likes to take things slow" and then just started avoiding any sexual situations altogether. Despite my patience refused to talk about it. Another one also never admitted outloud that he has a problem - we would just kiss etc. and whenever things got really steamy he would just kind of suddenly stop and get up from bed or make some stupid face and stare into space. I could NEVER get him to have a conversation about what is going on. In both cases after a while I just left. Because of total lack of communication. It was almost as if they were upset with ME that I "discovered" their problem.....

  • @@rebeccacroft23 and you should 🙂

  • Absolutely, or they expect you to just suck it endlessly

• I dated this man last year and we went through this.
  Put my feelings to the side and tried talking to him to see if it’s actually an issue FOR him. He expressed how interested he’s been and we have great foreplay. He just couldn’t get it right. He reassured me that it’s not me and like I said I had my feelings but I was more concerned with how it affects him and if it’s going to be an issue even after me.

  What I learned from that situation is that it wasn’t a case of ED. He was just so into me it got in the way but once we overcame that hump….oh he still holds the title!!

  Love this!

• This happened to me when I was dating a 56 year old man. The first time we were intimate, he said he was nervous being with me for the first time. I let it go until the next time we were intimate. He still couldn't perform. Then he confessed and said he has ED. He didn't want to take Viagra because he said it had a bad interaction with his high blood pressure medication. Which I knew nothing about. ED and high blood pressure he didn't tell me about. We dated for 4 months before we were intimate. He had time to tell me about those health issues. I made the decision to move on. I am a 52 year old woman in good health. I didn't want to waste any more time with him and his health issues. By the way, he said he wanted me to perform oral sex EVERY time, and I decided I didn't want to give wife privileges to a boyfriend.

  • Yes, especially if it’s in the beginning. All the holding on and trying is for those who have been in long term relationship and the ED is new. Not if you are newly dating or in a fresh relationship with them.

• Thank you for talking about this delicate issue in such a mature and respectful manner. I am a woman and I experienced the "Madonna effect" you described. Also one of my guy friends went through it with this girl he really liked. So I do believe it exists. I wish I saw this video back then because I did blame myself. But your reasonings and explanations make so much sense. It wasn't me. It didn't work out with the guy but that was simply because he wasn't the One. After watching this video I am more prepared mentally if this issue comes up in the future. Thanks Stephan ❤

  • I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

• Yes, this is an issue, especially when men get older. Alot of older men have health issues that affect intimacy, it needs to be addressed! The sad part is, especially in the black community, our men refuse to seek help, there is no shame in getting help.

  • It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

• If it is not a stress or health issue, you may need to have an honest conversation about whether he is engaging in a regular pattern of "internet usage" that might be draining his libido.

  • Yes has a man if I’m in a active sexual relationship I refrain from masturbating (to porn) , because so I can be sure I can perform with my partner

  • @@missmartin85 Right?
    Is that you Jasmine? LOL
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  • 😂 They don’t want to discuss this

• I commend you for this video!!! Unfortunately as men age...it gets alot worse and it's difficult as a woman who happens to love sex to have any idea what to do

• I was 21 when I met someone who was 37 and was in this situation. I was not experienced but I thought that something was off. He was a kind and caring person and because we dated for over three months before we got to that point, I already felt comfortable with him and I saw the bigger picture. We were honest with each other and were open minded about moving forward. We were together for eight years and I had no regrets. I will always respect the man that he was

  • Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏

• Always a treat to come across one of your vid’s pertaining to relationship topics. This one was a good and REAL! Deserves a 2nd listen, for sure😊

  • Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!