When A MAN Is Not Financially Stable Do THESE 5 Things

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• Hunty! You better preach! I cannot date potential, I need to see work & his own vision!! Staying single until a king is crowned!❤️❤️❤️

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• Now this is the video I've been looking for! Me and this guy have been going steady/developing a relationship from a friendship for the past year. He is now experiencing some financial hardships (the past few months). He has become distant, our communication/routine has changed drastically; He's def made it clear that he doesn't want me to over stretch myself in anyway. He is also a Godly man, so he is fasting and trying to gain clarity from God, but I feel so triggered rn b/c it wasn't made CLEAR that he wanted to step away from us, so I just decided to remove myself. I hope he knows I didn't want to.

  • Dear sister, maybe he is stressed out and depressed... That's why the communication has dropped off. May I encourage you to let him know you are there to be a listening ear. Your last sentence concerned me.... He may get the wrong idea why you removed yourself.. speak to him from your heart...

  • 🙏 I hope you reach the point of truly doing what is best.

  • If you are stressed out and depressed. You have my attention. Do you need a listening ear? I'm here for you.

  • Talk to that man and be open and honest. Be sure to do it from a healthy place. Sadly, when men fully define themselves by their job and/or have no safety net, this kind of stuff happens. I personally went through this a long time ago and could have managed it better.

    Don’t walk away with any regrets. You can do that by being in a healthy place internally. When coming from that place, you’re in a better place for dialogue.

    It sounds like he is going through a lot, but consider this a blessing. It’s an opportunity to see if he is capable of dialogue which is very much needed for a long-term relationship. If you taking the lead with being vulnerable, healthily and he also opens up, then great! If not, you may have dodged a bullet.

    Don’t assume. Seize the opportunity to start the clarity conversation. Best wishes sis!

  • Awww this is my situation too except we have a child but didn’t get to know each other thurlly & take the next stage in a commitment. He told for me to not worry about him he’s alive and building on himself. We r far apart atm but soon to be closer. I feel left out in the cold and here and there text him but he’s not saying anything. Am I doing anything wrong?

• I dealt with 5 years of this. Gambled the first 3 and offered no financial support.. NONE. He recently left because I “didn’t respect him”.
  It is not sustainable. You will eventually lose respect and behave totally out of character only to be blamed at the end.

  • It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

  • You kind of are to blame because that’s how you met him and it was okay then. So why not now?

  • @Inijj5162 U r so right! I dealt with a similar type of person. Like Stephan said, being so independent b4 him, I unconsciously did everything and footed the majority of the bills, for it to come crashing down over finances and me feeling resentful towards him. I never disrespected him or called him out of his name...yet he blames me for the breakup and his life having a negative financial snowball effect after us. Smh

  • @@QueenMFowlerknow what you mean, they love to blame for their short comings.

  • He didn't respect you OR HIMSELF! RIDICULOUS! Proud of you for getting the trash out of your house!

• "providing is not just financial" yes!! Totally agree!!

  • You're absolutely right!

  • Okay, he don't have a job but he goes grocery shopping etc .I still worry about how we will afford basic necessities. Don't even have a car and still ain't married 4 kids and 11 years later.

  • ​@@MariaDelCarmennn You don't know because you've enabled this 5th child (your baby daddy) to live off you for 11 years. Grocery shipping? Groceries can be delivered these days... he's doing the bare minimum WITH YOUR MONEY!
    Idk how you're gonna get out that either aside from putting him on child support or something. Good luck indeed!

• A lot of them perpetrate to have dreams and goals when you first meet them and down the road you discover that they were just future faking.

  • Sounds like a narcissist

  • Yes

  • Exactly

• Leave it’s that simple, my ex said he needed to get himself together and he loves me to much to have me wait on him ,he didn’t want me around while he was getting himself together. It was hard but I respect him for seeing my value . That was 4 months ago, I keep myself busy and to tell the truth I’m enjoying being single 😊 relationships is hard work!!!!

  • 🙏 ❤️

• I admire how you don’t mind keeping it real and being blunt. You mentioned some men are lazy. Thank you for not making excuses for men. They need to be called out. I appreciate your messages are delivered to educate men and women.

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  • Men gets called out more times than not

• You are so correct Stephan. A brother told me just recently, "A woman should only be mothering their own child". It made so much sense. My marriage failed because he just became complacent, i got exhausted providing for all of us for 11 yrs. Ladies, always look for a man's character. Look for a king, and not a prince.

  • You are so right! My ex kept switching jobs all the time and didn't have a financial plan for the future.

  • ​@@vaclinciapounds8859 Godbless you sister. When God blessed me with my present fiance, that's when i realized more everything that i had put on that table from my past relationship. My fiance right now is the total opposite, allowed me to regain myself from that past trauma. And now i trully feel loved and taken cared of. There are still good men out there. God will also bless you with one. Pls dont give up hope.

  • Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏

  • Oh wow 11 years? I ran out of my ex after 3 years😢

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• He is absolutely right!!! We are not bad people for not wanting to go through that.

  • Absolutely!

• This is so accurate. Sometimes guys are nice too and they will just play along like they want to go with the flow but they secretly don't and they secretly let her carry the brunt by just doing the bare minimum and playing like they have the same vision when they really don't care at all but they also don't want to see that woman with another man and they are too insecure to stay alone 😊