Why It’s so Difficult to Find Love in Montreal
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In my interviews with locals, French, and Canadians in Montreal, I explore why the dating scene is more complex than expected. Are Quebecois women more assertive, and how has this influenced men? Have Quebecois attitudes towards traditional family values shifted towards liberalism? Is commitment elusive in Montreal?
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0:00 Intro
1:00 Dating scene in Montreal
4:45 What are the gender dynamics in Montreal?
9:50 From highly religious to very liberal: impact of this?
11:48 Are Montrealers into polyamory?
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This thread is a testament to the power of civil discourse. Even in disagreement, there’s a mutual respect that shines through.💚
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I have dated* french women, but I prefer to date Asian and Latina women. But I love all women. As long as she’s chill and feminine, I’m game
@Anglo-Mountaineer007. No doubt there is a humongous gap between what you do like to write in the comment section and what really happens in the ”real”life of yours.
@@amandinemanddyna2705 my preference doesn’t need an explanation
Why does it always have to be the men who have to make the woman happiest all the time for better or worst
Go to eastern Europe and it’s the opposite.
@@rehmsmeyer oh you can’t be more wrong 🙂
It isn’t. Where did you get that idea from the video?
@@vocativusss Promise I know better than you do 😋
That’s the message drilled into society by media and literature. Women’s happiness is the goal and men are the heroes and saviours working their whole lives to make it happen. To break free from this mindset you need to seperate from tbe hive mind and you can imagine that the majority won’t do that.
Great conversations, thanks for this video! I do have to say however that this only represents the city of Montreal and that Québec as a whole is more traditional and more looking for serious relationships.
Yes, this doesn’t surprise me!:)
Happy Thursday, Marina! As long as she’s a good woman, laid back, and a feminine woman, it’s good for me. Sending my love ❤ from Miami, Florida, USA 🇺🇲
Great to see a gay guy 🙂 Love this channel but would love to see more from a queer perspective.
😂😂😂😂 y’all don’t matter pal
I’m still traumatised by the You Know You’re Dating An Anglo-Canadian Woman When… video. And I’m not even Canadian.
I just watched it based on your recommendation and OHH MY GOD! I value our woman 10 times more now, so all is good 🙂
@@N_Loco_Parenthesis Canada in general is a terrible place to foster deep and meaningful relationships, hence their terrible birth rate. It’s a postmodern nation with no identity, values and moral norms. They were raised sorely by the woke agenda since they were born.
I’ve lived in Montreal for over 10 years, first as a student and then as a professional. Between 2010 and 2019, Montreal was a nice city to live in, but things have changed quite a bit since then. One of the main problems I experienced there is the inability to build anything long-term because everything feels temporary. Few people, especially immigrants, stay there permanently. While the Quebecois remain, there is an invisible barrier between them and foreigners. Quebecois people are quite closed in their private relationships. Due to historical reasons, theirs is a very isolated culture, making it extremely hard to integrate, almost clannish. The only way to truly fit in is to be born into a predominantly Quebecois environment outside the main cities.
Quebecois people won’t explain why they behave this way because they dislike conflict. As politically correct individuals, they aim to appear open-minded and friendly, a survival tactic from the days of English conquest and domination of their land. This façade also serves as a marketing strategy, as Montreal’s economy heavily depends on immigration through student visas, university fees, housing, and renting. However, hidden forms of xenophobia and a refusal to intermix are prevalent. This creates a paradoxical situation where the friendliness experienced during the “honeymoon phase” of arrival fades, revealing a lack of concrete actions to foster real connections.
Most foreigners and immigrants end up dating other immigrants, as very few feel truly at home in Montreal due to the inability to connect and integrate into the local culture. This leads to a cycle of people leaving and having to start anew repeatedly. Many people I’ve met were terribly lonely and depressed in Montreal. If you don’t speak French, it’s even worse, as you’re considered an intruder and despised.
Montreal presents a beautiful façade, appearing as a perfect mirage of the Canadian utopian dream of multiculturalism with a supposed “European touch.” However, there is no real sense of culture and belonging. Even the Quebecois themselves are gradually being phased out of their metropolis, causing the French Canadian culture that once attracted so many people to slowly disappear and become mere folklore, similar to the Wendat Huron community near Quebec City.
As a French Caribbean man who has dated Quebecois women, I observed that Quebecois women are often extremely masculine and out of shape. This isn’t meant as a judgment, just an observation. Relationships are generally not deep, as there is a significant culture of drug consumption and hookup culture. My best experiences were with the Latin and Asian communities, where I built strong bonds and relationships.
Overall, Montreal is a great place to live as a student and for short-term fun. But for anything else, it’s best to move on.
Well said 👏👏👏👏
Bien sûr que les Québécois vont pas s’ouvrir si tu refuses de parler français
@@BerlinBoi67 Votre déni de la réalité et votre projection victimaire prouve bien l’ensemble de mon analyse lol.
Hard? Haha are you tripping? Montreal girls are better than in Toronto. If you want a nice cute one go rive sud to beloeil or so. Mais oue they very liberated facts.
People really need to emotionally grow up at some point, its ridiculous people are in “open” relationships because of fears of rejection and vulnerability. Well guess what that is life, we don’t stop living because not all people are interested in having relationships but can’t be afraid of life either. We get rejections from all places, familiy at times, friends or even ex friends. Like come on this is ridiculous people can’t just be normal about things anymore. Its always an extreme of one or the other.
TBH I’ve never heard a person in their ~30s, who say: dating is easy 😉 it never was. But it’s possible, and that is a good news 🙂
As a newcomer, here is an advice to other newcomers to Canada, never date a Canadian if you want a committed relationship. Most of my white friends are divorced. Half of their property was taken by their ex wives.
Not everyone is like this. Chill.
I’m pleasantly astonished seeing the change in Montreal – it was a delightful experience on prior visit but now motivates returning for an extended stay soon. Thank you for this timely release. 😊
Having lived in Montreal for 8 years, I highly agree with the opinions that were expressed during the video. Coming from Greece, I felt that the dating scene in Mtl was WAY different than what I was used to. I was rarely pursued in person and the men I met through dating apps were flaky for the most part. I felt that men were more in their feminine energy (being more passive, indecisive, flaky) while women had to be in their masculine energy (decision-making) more often. The polarities were reversed.
The city didn’t really agree with my energy, I prefer more traditional relationship values and I like to be in my feminine energy mostly 🌹
Because Bret screwed bret
Great video. Very entertaining.
Happy you liked it 😊
Taxes are ridiculous in Quebec.
I find it curious how women complain about behavior and gender, they only seem to want the bonus, never the burden, of both roles (liberal and conservative).
Please do Toronto and Vancouver as well! ❤
I love your videos❤