Why It’s so Difficult to Find Love in Montreal

@Imsemble says:

Great conversations, thanks for this video! I do have to say however that this only represents the city of Montreal and that Québec as a whole is more traditional and more looking for serious relationships.

@leloupdessteppes3228 says:

I’ve lived in Montreal for over 10 years, first as a student and then as a professional. Between 2010 and 2019, Montreal was a nice city to live in, but things have changed quite a bit since then. One of the main problems I experienced there is the inability to build anything long-term because everything feels temporary. Few people, especially immigrants, stay there permanently. While the Quebecois remain, there is an invisible barrier between them and foreigners. Quebecois people are quite closed in their private relationships. Due to historical reasons, theirs is a very isolated culture, making it extremely hard to integrate, almost clannish. The only way to truly fit in is to be born into a predominantly Quebecois environment outside the main cities.

Quebecois people won’t explain why they behave this way because they dislike conflict. As politically correct individuals, they aim to appear open-minded and friendly, a survival tactic from the days of English conquest and domination of their land. This façade also serves as a marketing strategy, as Montreal’s economy heavily depends on immigration through student visas, university fees, housing, and renting. However, hidden forms of xenophobia and a refusal to intermix are prevalent. This creates a paradoxical situation where the friendliness experienced during the “honeymoon phase” of arrival fades, revealing a lack of concrete actions to foster real connections.

Most foreigners and immigrants end up dating other immigrants, as very few feel truly at home in Montreal due to the inability to connect and integrate into the local culture. This leads to a cycle of people leaving and having to start anew repeatedly. Many people I’ve met were terribly lonely and depressed in Montreal. If you don’t speak French, it’s even worse, as you’re considered an intruder and despised.

Montreal presents a beautiful façade, appearing as a perfect mirage of the Canadian utopian dream of multiculturalism with a supposed “European touch.” However, there is no real sense of culture and belonging. Even the Quebecois themselves are gradually being phased out of their metropolis, causing the French Canadian culture that once attracted so many people to slowly disappear and become mere folklore, similar to the Wendat Huron community near Quebec City.

As a French Caribbean man who has dated Quebecois women, I observed that Quebecois women are often extremely masculine and out of shape. This isn’t meant as a judgment, just an observation. Relationships are generally not deep, as there is a significant culture of drug consumption and hookup culture. My best experiences were with the Latin and Asian communities, where I built strong bonds and relationships.

Overall, Montreal is a great place to live as a student and for short-term fun. But for anything else, it’s best to move on.

@chesterfieldjones1055 says:

Great video. Very entertaining.