Why Men Start DATING YOU When They’re Not Ready For A RELATIONSHIP

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• In my case I was the one who realized he wasn't ready in all the key areas. I shared with him that he has healing to do, that it wouldn't be fair to either of us to continue while he's working on himself because it wouldn't be about him it would be about keeping the relationship. That wouldn't be healthy.

  • Well said 🙏

  • I genuinely appreciate men like you who is full of understanding .​@MeetStephanSpeaks

  • I told a guy this same thing except I never let it get to the dating stage. He was in a separation and about to get a divorce and when I told him he needs to spend time alone to heal and work on himself he started talking about me being immature and acting like I just dumped him or smth. Keep in mind this tantrum came from a 36 year old crushing on me, a 21 year old. I guess I just expected him to be more mature at his big boy age.

• This is true I fell prey to this 😞

  • I’m sorry to hear that

• If I could tell you the number of dates I went on with men who are not emotionally healthy, whole and financially stable. Very important to vet...saved me from further disappointment.

  • When I started doing this, dating wasn't so bad.. I also have my black belt in emotional intelligence 😂

  • Thank you for sharing 🙏

  • It is so hard, darling. It's like you take the time to heal and get in a better place. Only then to you be ready to put yourself out there for a bunch of broken people.

  • ​​@@Ajah-v5y i feel y'all.. its TOUGH out there

• They selfishly don’t want to “miss their opportunity” to be with you but then they end up devastating you a few years down the road lol. It’s disheartening for sure as someone who has done the work because that’s what inspired them bulldoze past their shortcomings. The work for us then becomes learning how to read people even when they don’t read themselves well and how to better spot dishonesty sooner into a relationship

  • Oh girl, I love this!

• I haven't been on any recent dates in a good while to share any recent crazy experiences, but that has been a past one. True..some just aren't ready, and that is OK, and allows a person to move forward to someone whom is.

• When I say this video was so on time for my situation. I, myself, had to let go because he was not ready. I hate to say it, and it's so unfortunate, but most people these days are selfish (whether subconsciously or not). People also use the word "love" so loosely and only looking to see what they can get out of it. Please, women of God, as hard as it may seem some times, do NOT ignore your decrement, and guard your heart.

  • I appreciate that 🙏

• This is so good , the message in this video is for me and my current situation.

  • I’m glad it was helpful to you

• Thank you Stephan,this video was as satisfying as an authentic Caribbean dish

• Wow… I had to listen to that quote again. 💯

  Yes… talk to God & listen to your intuition!💯👏🏼

  Great topics of discussion!👏🏼💯

  Understanding your own boundaries with yourself!💯

  Heal while you’re single!💯

  Lean on God’s guidance!💯

  I agree… be yourself from the beginning!💯

  Excellent video! 💯❤️
  Wonderful advice & encouragement…I love it! ❤️💯

  You have a calming voice ☺️❤️

• The issue is that hurt people often avoid facing their problems. Instead of acknowledging their feelings, they pretend everything is fine. Then, to test if they still have the ability to connect with others, they pull people into their chaotic situations, even though they know they're not ready for a relationship. Many individuals fear being alone, but it's in this uncomfortable space that they can work on themselves and the vision they have for their lives. Why drag someone else into your life when it’s so chaotic, just to validate your own existence? Good people are tired of selfish people.

  • Well said. I had a situation where I spent time getting to know a guy like I said I would and I decided I didn't want to go further and told him all the reasons why the main reason being he was still married(was going through a divorce) and needed to heal. Plus whenever he'd talk to me he sounded like my dad. This man is 36 and I'm 21 and he thought I was the one being immature and and wild when he was slinging insults about my age and love life(he thought I was easy) left and right. He's still sending me messages after I made it clear I didn't want to talk to him and hes been acting like he wants to be friends but when I say no to hanging out he blows up.