10 Signs She’s Not Into You (Sorry #1 Sucks)

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• It sucks if she’s not that into you… but then again there’re lots of other women in the world to meet. What’s an obvious sign of ‘thanks but not thanks’ you’ve had from a woman you’ve liked? 🤔

• Wow… I’m depressed now. Good to know though 😔

• Wow Hayley, you covered a lot and I've experienced so many of them. I've spent most of my life in the friend zone. Now I say 'Meet me half way and I'm in. I don't chase anybody!' I've even said outright to a few women I don't chase anyone!

• A couple more I've experienced:

  When I'm always the one initiating at some point I stop and wait to see if she'll pick it up and initiate. Some don't and I never see them again.

  1. One I recently met randomly at a coffee shop showed a lot of interest and even excitement in me. Then I asked for her number and she said 'Oh, I don't do that.' At the end she said with a look of real enticement 'You know where I work!'.

  I waited a few days then went to her work place. She didn't have time for me and gave me her business card. I sent her an email (didn't bother to phone) which she never answered. I didn't expect she would.

  I saw her again at the coffee shop. She was acting exactly the same way with another guy as she was with me, same excitement. He appeared disinterested but tolerant. She didn't even notice me as she walked by in front of me a few feet away from her!

  Serial initiator, build up guys' hopes, then no follow through!

  2. I was on a dinner date with a woman. The conversation was rather halting and disjointed, difficult. Then I noticed she had no problem conversing fluently with our male waiter, smiling and showing real interest in him. Message received!

• Please do 10 signs he‘s not into you next!

  • As a guy, the list is basically the same on the male side. The overarching theme of disinterest is a lack of effort on the other person's part

  • This channel is to help hetero men. Women would already be able to pick up on all these signs. That is, unless you came from a household with no males.

• I need some advice: I was recently contacted by a former work colleague, who asked generally how I was doing. I took this to mean that she was somewhat interested in catching up, because we last texted over 10 months ago, and she had NEVER initiated.
  She was asking how I really was and kept asking if I was REALLY ok and we could talk about it.‘I took this to mean that she wanted me to ask her to catch up. I did, but I phrased it in a question, like: …so you feel like catching up? She said she’d love to, so I asked her schedule. She said she was at a university placement (for teacher training, but could do it in the holidays or evening.) I came back with meeting up afterwards because she was busy (I think this came across as non-needy and chilled, but I’d like your opinion). I also told her she could contact ME if/when she finished - was I wrong to say this? Should I have said that I’d get in touch nearer the time?
  I do like her, but we’ve never been anything more than distant colleagues who wish each other merry Christmas.

• Is there any wonder that SO many men are saying, "no mas." Hopefully, the men that she is interested in have already wised up and don't play along.

  • This is not a team sport. Everyone is on their own in the chemistry lab.

• I thought you were Harley Quinn 😒 still nice video.

• At least I know what the scope of things are with these 10 signs. One situation was really strange, she was happy to split the bill at the movies and later on when things slowed to a crawl I got frank and told her where I stood and wanted things to pickup, but I got no play, so I withdrew but remained mild and distant then she got really interested. Then I got upset from this but had some attraction, then as the upset died down, I got less attracted.

• Some of these signs are hard to notice, glad that you've discussed it, Hayley. Big help!