Accepting your man creates connection #shorts #love #datingcoach #relationshiprule #marriage

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• Of course. We All need this. Women too….

  • True...once a man said I deserve better than u..then he put the woman down too...

• I agree. Have two sons and a husband and men these days are made to feel inferior by many women. Build your husband up, tell him how important he is to the family and to you. Do this first and it will start to come back to you from him. If the man is the stronger partner then he needs to build his wife up and make her feel special and loved. With each person doing their absolute best to help their spouse feel and know they are the most important thing in your life the marriage is unbreakable. It’s a 100% on each person to make this happen

  • Keep talking, building him up on the positive stuff, and reminding him that the negative stuff also contributed to the great person he is today... he is the sum of all his experiences and he came out the other side

  • Very well said. I agree 100%.

• This is so good ❤ building a foundation of trust with him. Is this where we become his “safe place” or “safe harbor”?

• thank u so much

• I agree with accepting him inspite of his weaknesses or past. But he better be self aware and doing the work to overcome his character defects. Those things can sink a ship.

• Wow I agree 👍

• You perfectly right, but does this mean even if your man is still in his bad behaviour? It’s really baffles me alot.

  • What I’ve learned is that if you’ve been feeling negative about the relationship for a while now and he doesn’t seem to change at all, it’s better to leave him asap.

• How do we help them feel accepted through their guilt, shame and so forth, if they can't accept themselves and won't let anybody get too close?

• What if he doesn't even want to talk ? Maybe he doesn't really want to connect with normal folk. Maybe he's just happy with the ladies of the street I am not criticising these women. And I hope they are paid well.

• I'm a pretty accepting person. If Harry and I end up together we are going to have some things to work through because of HIS actions. It will be ongoing because I concede that I am bent out of shape because of what he did and what he was going to allow that thief to do. I won't throw it in his face continuously but I may get quiet from time to time if my blood is boiling. Especially if our oldest son, and even our daughter, rejects me because that thief is the only maternal figure they've known. I will give them as much time as they need but I am going to be steamed with Harry if it happens, which I am expecting it to...and it didn't need to happen because I never needed a surrogate.

  I already love, like, and accept him for the man he is. I just have some resentment towards him because he did me really dirty.

  • You must work at forgiving yourself and him... otherwise, it will stay active and the thief is long gone... you don't have to allow the thief to keep.st3aling away from you.

  • @@KG-bliss you are right but I have nothing to forgive myself for. My eggs were STOLEN. I did not donate them to another woman. I did nothing to Harry. He is the one who married the surrogate ,which we didn't need in the first place, then was going to allow her to completely erase me from my children. Those are some whoppers have to to forgive but if I decide to forgive, I will let it go. I am only human so, of course, I will be hurt if my kids reject me at first. They don't know me so that is exactly what I am expecting to happen until they get used to me being around and being there as their mom.

  • Addendum....I will be expecting my children to reject me at first until they get used to me as their REAL mother. Of course, they are way too young to understand how they came to be and the circumstances around their birth but when they are old enough to understand, I will be telling them exactly what occurred and what the surrogate tried to do....flat out steal them and my life with them and their father. They will know just how rotten she is.