ANTHONY O’NEAL Says the Problem is Him | Now He’s Ready For Marriage | Dear Future Wifey E922

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• 12:48 I’m sorry what?? Because of skin tone and hair. And then people try to gaslight us and say colorism is not real. Mind you this from a pastor.

  • Who says that colorism is not real?

  • @@roots1458 so many men say “it’s just a preference” or they’ll act like the shade has nothing to do with it

  • Yeah I was like...huh?! Then it got me to thinking most Pastors have specific looking wives. Certain looks.....

  • That entire statement was nauseating 🤢🤢🤢 especially coming from a “pastor.”

• It seems as though this young man has gotten more caught up "in moving with intentions" than with moving by God's leading when it comes to choosing the right woman, thereby making his quest to find the right "help mate" way too complicated. Stop listening with your physical ears to all those other people and start listening more intently to God with your "spiritual ears." God will make it VERY clear who the right woman/purpose partner is for you.

  • Honey!!!! I’m apart of a prayer group and they are always speaking on being intentional and preparing ourselves for what we want and it just never sits well with me. I truly believe that God does not want me to move in that manner. I have been blessed with way more opportunities when I was just staying in my word, being outside to be able to be a blessing to others and just going with the flow of the Holy Spirit.

  • Exactly!!

  • Yup. Perfectionism is overwhelming him. Pray he taps into the Word and God's prompting. The outside noise is throwing him.

  • This!!!

  • Exactly. These new terms are what's hurting these folks. "Intentional" just move on faith. With the flow of the Holy Spirit
    Woman know when a man is intentional and when he is not. It's not that hard​@@TheChillionaire007

• I wonder if AO is also so in love with the idea of who he is that he self sabotages!

  • Right, he may be able to provide financially, but he doesn’t give off a protective vibe. Many women need that in their partner. He will find the right one.

  • Also, it seems she might’ve been of different race since he mentioned being black as one of his insecurities at that moment.

    In my opinion, some black men don’t seem to understand that dating and marrying outside of their race will have them feeling unsafe and insecure where they will never be understood as a black man.

    I’m not trying to be close minded or opposed to dating outside of your race. However, I am aware that this can be the problem.

  • @@J_Elle30 that or he will grow into a protector.

  • @@lorinawilliamsi love how you worded this. i think this is what i was trying to express to male friends

• The man is the winner 🥇
  The woman is the prize 🏆

• The pressure to date with intention is crazy . And I feel like people get scared by being intentional … that doesn’t mean i am rushing it means I will not waste my time with idle conversations and situations! ❤

  • Make it that simple!!!
    Intentional seems to mean every date I go on ,Could this be my wife/husband! That ain’t the way. Have fun , and trust God. I never had to do anything particular to be granted gifts from God.

  • @@tomaradoss3420it means if you don’t see a future don’t entertain it no dating, or try to fit a square peg in a round hole.

  • @ I know
    Exactly what you mean🎯 because I was good for that! But you may meet someone you do enjoy.

• To see him maturing in his journey is beautiful to see. Good luck

• It’s refreshing to see men vulnerable, and transparent ❤❤❤

  • 💯

• I think because we as black people sometimes wait so long to settle down, we miss that a life with someone is something you create and not something that comes already packaged completely.

  • Black people where exactly?

  • Exactly! It’s created, not pre-packaged.

  • That's true

  • @@merriem24 The problem is a few people have been deceived into thinking someone has potential, they have managed to pull the wool over the eyes of a potential spouse and quite frankly people are tired. Some of us also so not do enough research, see red flags and still skip into danger lollll.

  • This is so good 🙌🏽

• My dad would always tell us is that you can't be the wrong person to the right person 😊

• Love it....not getting married for the wedding... getting married for the assignment on our lives and praying for our life in Christ.....Amazing