Have you ever heard of the term "Going Dutch?" Did you know how it originated? I went to the country where the term originated from – the Netherlands to ask the Dutchies themselves what they think about "Going Dutch", the Tikkie culture, who actually pays on the first date and is it common to send out Tikkies for a dinner party at your own house?
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0:00 What is "Going Dutch"?
0:49 What is "Going Dutch" according to Dutchies?
2:55 Are Dutch cheaper than Germans and Nordics?
3:29 Do the Dutch actually "Go Dutch"?
6:00 Were did "Going Dutch" originate from?
7:13 The Tikkie
7:39 Reddit Posts about the Smallest Tikkie Ever Sent
9:27 What is the smallest Tikkie that Dutchies send out or receive?
11:40 Why are Dutch considered "the cheapest"?
12:09 Do Dutch send Tikkie for dinner parties?
15:25 Conclusion
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I would love to see other countries from different parts of the world would react to "Go Dutch" in their respective countries 😂 , especially the women
yesss!
Spain, for example
How about 'going greek'
@@mikaleppakoski5113 what was your experience with a Greek?
This would be interesting actually
Always love your videos....thanks a tonnes. You doing awesome job...😊
this is also very common in austria - to split the bill when you are out (on date ore just wth. friends), and waiters ask when they bring your bill if you are paying "together or separate. and tbh it works perfectly and i think it is very fair and relaxed
Yes the only stressful part was to tip. We needed to think quickly on how much and say a number back to the unfriendly waiter. Luckily Austrians are very nice (except when working as waiters), and I always handed them my money and asked them to please tip, because I sure can’t think that quickly on backward numbers 😅
hahah! yes, i think there is even a saying (for people who are from Vienna at least), that you know you are home, when waiters are unfriendly😂 😂. but, i think they get more grumpy then really unfriendly and we are all used to it here. and also you can be grumpy back, and then in the end you become like sort of friends. it is hard to explain😅😅. but i don´t think the tipping is as rigorous as in e.g. usa; there is not exact percentage you have to tip a waiter, but people always usually do (like, if it is a small order, we "round it up", and if it is a bigger order then we go into procentages)
@@klimtkahlo only in Vienna, the service in tirol (west austria) is fantastic.
Zusammen oder getrennt? 😬
it does make sense though, that something stereotypical for a country is not known in that country, because there it´s normal
My ex is from NL and he's the cheapest guy I've ever dated. I was staying over his place and we went to supermarket together. He wanted to get jam for us to share but he made me pay for it. I only had two spoons and the rest of the jam sit in his fridge...
I wonder why he is your ex
Did you send him a Tikkie for the unused jam ?
@@ianandrews6890 omg I should have lol
😂hahah this is hilarious! Well, in Turkey , where I am originally from, we don’t often split the bill like people from. The Netherlands, Germany,etc do. But when this happens so , we say “Alman hesabı” or Alman usülü which means Splitting the bill like Germans. This is the first time I’ve heard of this term. Personally it makes sense to me that the first time the man pays but the other times the woman shares the pay or pays the whole price. I wouldn’t mind.
I watched this and the previous video, and it explains my grandfather (whose own father (my great-grandfather) emigrated from the Netherlands to the USA at 19 years old) through and through. Cheapest man I’ve ever known and now I finally understand why 😂
Yes we have a grocery mentality. Many people read the prices in the supermarket and may even go to another supermarket because of certain price offers.
Is "going Dutch" for you?
If my Dutch boyfriend "went Dutch" on me on our first date, we would not have had a second date. I am Serbian, by the way. I feel it would be the same for the nationals from many Mediterranean and Balkan countries as well.
@@worldcitizen677
not necessarily... my mother is of Georgian descent my dad is Persian but my street nickname is ROBOT... I want to have a girl without emotions likewise... are Dutch robots? Well unfortunately basically not... AS THEY SAY IN GERMANY HARTE SCHALE WEICHER KERN. Hard skin but soft core...
no i don't think so
@@worldcitizen677 Portuguese and Spanish go 50/50.
Never went dutch on a date. Only with a big group one pays for themselves.
In the Philippines, we do not use "going Dutch" but we use KKB or "kanya kanyang bayad" (kanya kanyang for "each" and bayad for "pay), which shares the similar concept as "going Dutch" where everyone is expected to pay for what they ordered.
These conditions apply to KKB (based on my observations, please feel free to correct me):
- Whenever someone invites us to join, either we ask if [the activity (eg. group meal)] is KKB or the one who invited will pay for the entire bill (otherwise called as "Libre" or "free"). In this way, expectations can be set for whether the "libre" means "unlimited" or "has a cap" (the one who will pay will mention the limit) and those who are invited are free to refuse/participate.
- KKB doesn't mean "your meal is only your meal." Filipinos love to share and what's in my plate can still be shared even if I am paying for it and whatever is in someone's plate can be shared too. However, it's still respectful to ask for that person's permission especially when the food in the plate is "quite interesting."
All accurate,Filipino here. Today, We use Gcash, Maya, or banking apps to transfer our share.
Great job Marina—I can see how much effort was put into this! I've come to appreciate "going Dutch" because it's just easy and efficient—it saves a lot of time and headaches because there's no expectation of "who will pay?" Because I also come from an Asian family, and we LITERALLY FIGHT to pay the bill (which can be a funny scene in itself)—but it does create expectations of who pays next time and can sometimes create conflict ("Oh but we paid for them last time, and they should pay this time")
But of course, I still think it's a nice, universal human gesture to offer to pay for others (or to serve) depending on the occasion!
It was a fun day with great memories—I learned a lot! Keep it up!
Thanks David! Was a fun day filming this 😁
It's also easy. For example, meeting with cousins and neices about ten in total to a restaurant. That would be a huge bill for one person especially if they have a lower salary. That may cause some tension. When splitting the bill we avoid that tension.