Do GERMANS Want to Date a German or Foreigner?
I asked German men and women on the streets of Munich and Cologne, Germany if they would prefer to date a German or a foreigner. Here is what they had to say.
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Marina Iakovleva (directing)
Karam Dassim (video: Munich)
Oleh Voitovych (editing)
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Munich & Cologne, Germany
That last man is hilarious ๐ Why worry when we face apocalypse any minute?
Yes, he was hilarious. ๐
Liked him ยก He’s a hot mature man and has traveled so he’s experienced and empathic, is he free by any chance ??
Hi – your comment is cute โบ โบI want to be your friend and to be real with you, I want to learn honest things and you can feel what I feel. Can we do it? I have feelings about you Oops, sorry./ My name is Yua Cheni Benyi but you can call me Yua. What is your name?
โ@@amiquigonzales7917probably, regarding the mess he is.
I think it’s also so hard for other people to date Germans they are cold sometimes too cold ๐
Depends i guess
As a french dude who traveled around Asia, Europe and Oceania I’ve met many Germans, I lived in Berlin and Hambourg for 6 months as well
And it’s only fair to say that Germans where often the most open-minded and easy to talk to. Really easy to just start a conversation and get along for a drink right away, either as a friend with a dude or for a date with a German beauty
@@broflo8859 you must be lucky then ๐๐
โ@@broflo8859Germans are cold as ice
Bullshit.
โ@@broflo8859Berlin and Hamburg are exactly the two places where you get to meet the most “ungermanized Germans” ๐. They are not representative of the typical German
@Dating Beyond Borders – do you think you’ll ever do similar street interviews for East/South East/South Asians who either grew up in western countries or naturalized in western countries? I feel like there’s a big gap between Asians that are accustomed living in the west, vs Asians who grew up in Asia.
funny how they all love spanish and latin american “culture” thinking it’s all passions and etc. but when they will realize that they are going to have fiesta every day, and when you have family dinner and all of a sudden half a town shows up. they going to get tired of it very very fast.
Are you really trying to scare us off with party everyday? ๐๐
i used “fiesta” as a metaphor for every day nagging and emotional rollercoaster latin women are famous for. you will get tired from that very fast. there will be days you will be crying to god for a peaceful day. @@Johannathan187
Not to mention being super late.
oh, come on, they go to Mallorca every summer, THEY KNOW how it works ; D
Yeah, we throw parties for no reason. If you bought a new car, if you crashed it, you name it, we will just find an excuse to celebrate. The one thing that can drive Germans insane is that we’re always late, and I mean 30 minutes or more late. Family gatherings, expect 700 people and lots of food. “May the odds be in your favor”
That older guy is wild ๐. Latinos seem to be popular in Europe . Maybe I should leave the US ๐
YES
Overall true. However, I don’t think northern Italy likes them..based off of my travel experience there
Latinas Are incredibly popular. My wife who is Mexican is always surprised about all of her countrywomen being considered hot by German men (she is really pretty herself but she sometimes tells me, about certain Mexican girls that they would never be considered guapa in Mexico whereas German men are all over them).
based off of my experience with some German men that I have met, I agree with that statement
@@IzzyChopChop I have heard from many Latinas (friends of my Mexican wife) that they feel they get way more attention from German men than in their home countries. Was quite surprised as they seemed very good looking to me but my wife also said that those wouldnโt be considered pretty in Mexico. Different countries different preferences I guess.
These videos have a common trait, theoretically every culture is open to date foreigners but the ideal long term partner is always from your own country because its what you know and its more easy. So all these videos look the same, the only thing that make some stand apart are interesting personal stories of the people that are interviewed, sometimes. Of course falling in love with a foreigner happens everywhere, its just life.
and yet I can’t get enough of this content, bring on the anecdotes!
well said i agree!
I’m German and I’ve actually never been with a German man. My first boyfriend was Italian and then I just kept dating foreigners. My husband is Greek. I have 8 cousins, of whom 4 are married to a foreigner.
Half of my childhood friends is also married to a foreigner.
So from my personal experience I would say that Germans really are very open to marry a foreigner and the ideal for us is not someone from our culture, but more someone we have enough in common to be able to agree on fundamental things and enough difference to be able to learn from each other.
But maybe my experience is flawed, because I grew up in Munich, where 25% of the population are foreigners, so foreigners feel familiar to us folks from Munich. I could imagine if you grew up in Zwickau it’s a bit different.
Have they done france? I wonder if the mediterranean countries would be different. Seems they only focus on baltic and scandinavian – but those countries are pretty closed to foreigners.
Rubbish. Do you think a German would be as willing to date Thai, Fililipo, or Sri Lankan, as the latter would like to date German? If so, why are Germans in interracial, mostly happen to be middle aged fat divorced men in “relationship” with Thai and Filipina girl half their age?
Iยดm Canadian and met my German husband in Canada. we got married 1.5 years after meeting each other. Getting to know a German on an intimate level can be challenging but when you have a Canadian who is more outgoing and open it some how works. we have been married 8 years now and I would say we still have talks about how we culturally view things differently. for example as a German being too direct can be a little hurtful or beating around the bush as a Canadian is frustrating for a German, weยดve learned to be a little of both now.
Germany’s economy and medicine are 10 times better than Canada’s, why did he come to you? LOL
I’m Canadian too, congrats, hopefully you got out of Canada.
Where is it better than Canada? The US perhaps @@Ed-xv4sy
it seems to be the same for all the native english speaking countries: Indirect questions that keep beating arouind the bush rather than asking directly what you wanna know…..I just broke up with my english boyfriend because he found my directness hurtful and i found his beating around the bush infuriating, its like needing a translator and when it happens every other day and turns into a big fight cos of misunderstandings, then its just not worth it…
I had a Catalan girlfriend. We were together for 5 years, but in the end the cultural differences were too great. We argued too often and it was better to break up. I was also too direct for her and she was too impulsive over every little thing. I actually wanted to date foreign people, but after this experience I prefer to stick with German women.
23yo. German here I have only dated foreign girls so far but always with a rather similar cultural background. Like Finnish they are reserved too and it takes time to break the ice. Not saying there were no differences at all. Currently dating a Japanese. I gotta say though I would go with anyone I can build a bond with. Neglecting their cultural background.
Uhm it kinda looks like youre still exploring…
The girl from Isreal nailed it. Most Germans might go on dates with foreigners, it’s fun to meet but they don’t progress. They are not that flexible, they prefer it easy and with less risk and effort for them in the long term ๐
Except Berlin… there you get to have 5 relationships at the same time.
The last part! โ5 different relationships at the same timeโ, tell me why thatโs the tale of all big/ major cities?! LMFAO๐คฃ
pretty sad the thing with berlin
bullshit
The girl from Israel gives strong promiscuous vibes. Most German men dont fly with that.
As a Norwegian I don’t care where the lovely ladies are from, as long as they light up a smile when they see me.๐
Typical norwegain narcissist looking for attention and looking to serve their narcissistic suppy. Thanks for highlighting your grandiose needs once again clearly.
(Now i know youโre gona say โthanksโ and then โyou know a lotโ then โyou assume a lotโ โ put me in a place where you think you know me and make me question myself like you are a superior teacher making me think of myself)
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Hi – your comment is cute โบ โบI want to be your friend and to be real with you, I want to learn honest things and you can feel what I feel. Can we do it? I have feelings about you Oops, sorry./ My name is Yua Cheni Benyi but you can call me Yua. What is your name?
I’m half German half Romanian. I didn’t date so far even there were a couple chances in the past.
But the point is that in my point of view it’s easier to get along with Romanians, not just when it’s about relationships but in general. They’re friendlier, funnier and warmer. It doesn’t take long to break the ice.
In Germany it’s harder I think. Not saying that every1 is bad but compared to Romania it was harder for me to get in contact with people in Munich than in Romania.
Agree 100%. I am Romanian, my ex-boyfriend was german, and for my future relationships I would rather choose somebody from my own country.
sounds like youre a bit ignorant
The love of my life is German. Ultimately it should be about personality. If you’re putting nationality boundaries in the way, you will only hurt yourself.
Hi – your comment is cute โบ โบI want to be your friend and to be real with you, I want to learn honest things and you can feel what I feel. Can we do it? I have feelings about you Oops, sorry./ My name is Yua Cheni Benyi but you can call me Yua. What is your name?
โ@@MrsYua-Cheni-BenyiHi I can be your friend
Marina you should do what Nordics and Baltics think of each other. I think it would be really interesting.
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Donโt they hate each other?
@@johnwick7583 youโre thinking of the Balkans
@@saalvosegg8171 baltics and Balkans not the same? They are different countries?
@@johnwick7583 The Balkans hate each other. The Nordic and Baltic states donโt hate each other.
As a German, I married an Italian woman. We follow traditional values, and want many babies together.. but in my experience, German women prioritiese their career.
I thought you’re British?…..
@@MabusNero-bb3sv I identify as an Englishman, because I was adopted by an Englishman. My parents were German/Norwegian
@@Fatherland927 wow, it’s my first time hearing an adopted Norwegian……..
@@Fatherland927 since it’s always the other way around English orphans
@@Fatherland927 your dad or mom is Norwegian?
oh my god i kept laughing everytime they said that Spanish and Latin American cultures are more open minded. Iโm Mexican and American and itโs more that some people outside have a fetish of Latinas that isnโt talked about and also Mexican and other Latin American countries are very traditional and conservative. Because I am also American it wasnโt a problem for my family that I brought my boyfriend over to sleep with in my own room, but in a Mexican household normally this would NOT be allowed unless the couple is officially marriedโฆand only by the church. I have a lot of family in Germany and it was honestly a nice experienced to suddenly not be met with so much caution as Mexicans are constantly stereotyped in the American media here, but please do not assume other cultures here are necessarily more open-minded, itโs more so we are very social cultures and we prioritize family. You WILL attend every single social event in your city, it doesnโt matter if you donโt know the family very well! ๐ If you donโt like to socialize well too bad, you will make a terrible impression ๐
Esto me pasรณ a mi tambiรฉn. Cuando visite la familia de mi esposa mexicana por primera vez su padre no querรญa q durmiรฉramos en el mismo cuarto ya que todavรญa no estรกbamos casados. Gracias a dios sus papรกs estรกn divorciados y a su mamรก (donde vivรญamos) no le importaba. Su papรก le dijo al moso (q todavรญa conocรญa) q separara nuestras camas cada dรญa en la maรฑana, q fue muy estรบpido porque simplemente las juntamos otra vez en la noche. Pero si puedo confirmar q en este sentido son muy tradicionales todavรญa.
I wonder where in the U.S. you’re from. I’d say in most of the U.S., parents would NOT be ok with a daughter having a boyfriend over. The U.S. is actually quite traditional and this doesn’t get talked about a lot.
your talking about something that is sexual in nature lol those who say open minded are talking about friendliness and being warm to random people more inviting. most people will questio ln theyre daughters having a male in their house in their room alone
Excellent then
Sure if you live in a super conservatice family in a village… reallity is different, Latin America nowadays is more openminded than South Europe
2:00 โIโm not really attracted to the people from my hometownโ can relate๐
Then marry a man from another European country.
Abdul: “my time has come”
As a German woman, I do not see European men as foreigners so that is why I am with a man of my race
This comment smells of right wing
@@alienkishorekumar Nazi
Well, still different mentalities and cultures
based
@@slavicmelodies9614 I didn’t say right or wrong. Did you just assume what I said as wrong? Or my intentions were wrong. Perhaps I worded it in the wrong way.
as someone from germany, i think those people who say that they want only someone from germany also mean that they would date foreigners that are born and raised in germany. in germany there are plenty of people with different cultures so i donโt think they need to look for someone outside of the country when they can have a foreigner that speaks german fluently and is raised in the german culture.
I believe this is only true for people from a closely related culture like Polish or Dutch as the problems with misunderstandings and different cultures would still persist e.g. with a Muslim person born here. Of course there would be much more familiarity however at least to me this seems like opening the same can of worms of cultural and value clashes they are wanting to avoid (e.g. I just learned recently that Muslims aren’t allowed to touch dogs or have them in their house which would be a deal breaker to me, though of course it depends on the person and how secular and integrated they are. But since this is about preferences I think that a preference for dating someone from Germany is primarily about dating other native Germans or people from related cultures that the people feel like they understand and are familiar with)
โ@@hmvollbanane1259To be fair, Muslims are a special case even by foreign standards. They generally expect you to convert to their religion before getting married. Also, no alcohol, pork, dogs etc as it’s against their beliefs. Some that are not religious may be a bit more flexible.
But if you had a Hindu Indian or Chinese Buddhist, for example, with a German person there’s a greater chance they will meet you in the middle.
If they are born and raised in Germany then they aren’t foreign….
@@sanna_goldman i think this case would be true in the states but in germany you are a foreigner if you are not ethnically german or at least donโt have a german passport
@@thecrimsondragon9744 it sounds more like having prejudices against muslim people ๐ there are lot of muslims who drink alcohol and If someone already knows from the beginning that he is not a Muslim, he will and could not force him to change his religion.
As an Englishman, I would like to marry a German woman. I feel we are a very similar people, our culture and history that is
Lol you donโt know what you will get yourself into.
Date English women. You’re even more similar
Yeah you too had a genocidial maniac called churchill
As a person who has been traveling to Germany for over 20 times, German folks are quite nice and friendly actually. I like polite and organized people, though not the bossy types.