Dutch Hospitality is Shockingly DIFFERENT! 
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Such things should be communicated in advance. I couldnβt ever think of charging my guests anything, ever.
I was invited to a Danish birthday dinner, and had to pay for my dinner lol. For a German celebration dinner also, payed for my dinner. Both times I was surprised. If I knew maybe one of those times I wouldnβt come because I was in a financially bad situation.
In Croatia if we invite you out for a dinner to celebrate something or if you come to our house, you will not be allowed to pay for anything whatsoever. If you even try, Croatians will be super insulted.
But this hospitality, or however one can give, is then expected back.
What I experienced in Germany is that I always throw wild feasts for parties and always greet everyone with everything their heart can wish for, weather only for 1 friend or for 30, and when I come to them I have to bring everything I want to consumeβ¦
Very difficult cultural crash. I felt used a few times.
@@umapumame as a German can only slightly relate. I would never ask people to pay me for a celebration I host, and also most people I know wouldnβt. Also I would never expect anyone to bring their own food/drink. I was raised this way. But maybe it can be a regional difference or just from my circle of people. Tho bringing something yourself voluntarily, thatβs totally a thing here, I agree, especially at more βcasualβ events. I think it is a nice gesture to the host as a little thank you for the invitation/hosting the event.
Edit: if it works both ways, obviously. May I ask which German region you had the event?
β@@elpresidente6553I lived in Germany and never anyone made me pay for food or drinks when I was invited. I mean invited in someoneβs house as a guest, if you go out with a group of friends I donβt expect them to pay for me.
Sharing is caring. All pay
Would the men ask for partial condom reimbursement? After all itβs for the benefit of both.
No, the female should pay for it
Depends on the performance.
Women should charge for vaginal rental
β@@Frivals sex diseases have no gender preferences
Do they pay taxes afterwards? I guess such cases should be reported
also, if they were provided food for guests, do they have a restaurant license and all necessary sanitary checks?
Are you from Germany?
The question is how they have asked for money before electronic money
Bingo. I want to understand the real implications of this mindset in their culture.
Probably rob, rape and plunder. No doubt the Dutch are the cheapest. Rumor has it, they perfected the Tikkie when they colonized, rape and plundered Indonesia, Suriname, etc for centuries
Hold on Iβm confused! They host a party and invite people to the party and then charge them? Did I get that right?
Welcome to Holland
crazy, isnβt it? I would be shookt. If I were the guest, I would still pay out of repect but I wonβt see them again.
No, nor did the video. βIβve heardβ¦.]
@@choosyduchess25 I was a new student and my new neighbour in my building invited me for pancakes , I thought great, thatβs friendly, then after charged me lol, he was a nice guy but it seemed like such a small sum to ask for returned not worth asking. But it was the way so I just went with it.
@@hirsch4155 wow, just wow! I could never do that to a guest especially to a new neighbor.
That is SO wrong. In Poland (and a lot of other countries I suppose) on parties there are always tables full of food, and people will demand from you to eat more and more
Then stay in where you are?
It is not wrong, its a cultural differenceβ¦. I used to think this way, payed for everything, but others send me a tikkie. Now I have spent hundreds to thousands of euros on friends and never got it back. You have to do it.
What is the point of invitation if the invitee have to pay? They can just eat somewhere else
β@@ahmaddwikipradany2843And you come back to your homeland which is not Netherlands:) ,,Ahmadβ is not dutch name
β@@ahmaddwikipradany2843go back to your homeland. Ahmad name sounds so βdutchβ xD
Charging someone you invited is almost as awful as tipping culture in the USA.
Itβs worse. At least the clients in America know the deal and go willingly.
β@@guodaripinskaite6314
Itβs a lot worse come on and Iβm african european
@@cloudcampos4555 whatβs african-european? We donβt have a term like in the usa.
@@nonamegirl9368 it doesnβt really exist tbh haha french-Algerian to be more precise.
This is insane! Iβm from Greece and thereβs absolutely no time that someone, anyone, friend or stranger will step a foot in my house even for 5min and not treat them with something, either a sweet, a drink, coffee, even just water if they deny by politeness. I invite friends to my house or we gather there spontaneously and I feed/treat them. Quite many times, for breakfast, lunch, dinner. For no reason. Just for the company. And it feels so nice. Iβve learned hospitality. This is just crazy, demanding money. Unbelievable!
im bosnian and i think this is crazy too.
Yup, No doubt the Dutch are the cheapest. Rumor has it, they perfected the Tikkie when they colonized, rape and plundered Indonesia, Suriname, etc for centuries
I believe this. I used to have a Dutch sports car. It would stop on a dime. Pick it up too.
Ah so thatβs how dutch word for splitting bills came
Going dutch lol
Jeez that is so cheap, these people are not friends at all
Thatβs worse than here in Australia young people make an invite but for a bbq and then ask people to bring their food and even their own chair!!!
When I was in school, for holidays that people couldnβt go home to families, we βstayersβ would get together, everyone bringing a dish. Iβve done many a Christmas and (american) Thanksgiving meal together. Your dish is your contribution
Did they have to bring their own chair though? @@rvail136
Itβs a bit different for a BBQ, because they tend to attract a large number of people and the host is also a twenty year old that canβt afford to feed all of them. In the case I think itβs excused, but the chair thing is a bit weird
, never heard that before.
Having a BYO bbq is fine because everyone knows prior what to expect. Even if itβs BYO, the host will still usually provide snags and burgers at the very least. And will usually have soft drinks and beer, even if itβs still polite for guests to bring a few stubbies (or whatever they prefer).
But the idea of going to a bbq at someoneβs house and then they invoice you later is laughable. Ridiculous tightass culture
@filippos4648 The outdoor chair thing is only for public bbqs at a park or if itβs expected that everyone will eat outdoors. That same 20yo isnβt gonna have 30 chairs just lying around in storage, nor would most 30 or 40yo
This is crazy. If you invite someone over to your home for a party, you are responsible to pay for it. Sometimes I will offer to kick some cash if the food was a pizza, sub sandwiches or wings, but normally the host will fund everything. The only exception may be alcohol. In that case, they will tell you beforehand to bring your own beer or whatever.
I would not pay them. Thatβs is intentionally manipulative to spring that on someone AFTER they attended. Also, exceptionally insincere, ungracious, and selfish.
If you need other people to cover the cost of your party in your own home, ask ahead who consents to pay in order to attend your home β and expect to share the receipts to them as proof of costs incurred. Or, just donβt run an illegal restaurant 3 feet away from your bedroom. What an unattractive quality.
No doubt the Dutch are the cheapest. Rumor has it, they perfected the Tikkie when they colonized, rape and plundered Indonesia, Suriname, etc for centuries
Itβs a disgusting cheapskate culture. If i had lunch at someoneβs house and they sent me a bill for it afterwards, Iβd delete and block such a person from my life
That tells a lot about their people in general
If you do this in Greece, your whole village/town/city will be laughing at you next day..We have certain βnicknamesβ for such behavior. Omg, this is sadβ¦
Charging after inviting its too cheap
as somebody who worked with dutchies before, they seem the kind of people who wouldnβt go out of their way to do something selfless, itβs always βwhatβs in it for me?β
If you are going to act like a restaurant, donβt lie and call it a party.
Exactly!
Iβve never imagined a culture could be devoid of the most basic gracious hospitality
, especially towards outsiders or family. Combine that with their well known brutal bluntness, and I donβt think many would visit them if not for their more questionable or debauched industries.
Welcome to the Nordic and Germanic counties, now hereβs your bill.
If you invite someone to your party, you pay. Period!!
But if you all decide to have a party, you all contribute for the party!!