Europeans: Who Pays on a Date? #shorts
Who pays on a date in these European countries?
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In southern Italy everyone wants to pay the bill, but it’s too late ππ€
I have fought so many times over it, it’s crazy… and even if I split I always do evenly even if I bought less than the other
Also in North and Center Italy π
When I invite my friends to lunch out for like my birthday I have to literally launch myself on the bill!
My cousins boyfriend who is now her husband would always pay for me too because I’m a girl lol. And when their friends who are couples came with us, each boyfriend would take turns paying at each place we went and argue with each other cause they wanted to pay lol
In Sicily*
I am from croatia and paing bill in whole region is must for males. Slovenia bosnia croatia serbia …-male would reather die than let female pay bill. I my self feel weird by thought of spliting bill with female.
thats how it should be
@@larrytowne7536 If you want to live in the past, sure. Times are changing thankfully
Thats great. I love masculine men who takes pride in being a man, a provider and protector
I’m Croatian and that’s a lie lol. As a 28 year old woman I paid for dates as often as the guys. At least it’s like this in Zagreb. Maybe in smaller towns and villages it’s different, but here in Zagreb women are not leeches, we work, we make money, and we sure as hell can pay for the dates, especially if we invite the guy out. Usually I pay for one date, he pays for the next etc. I also love that both of us work and both of us cook and clean at home. All chores are split 50/50, as it should be. As a woman I want equal opportunities in life, and I want to be treated as an equal to men, so I don’t need them to pay for me.
@@maryfiero8122 every healty woman does. Man is provideing with money because he cant give what woman can give. Woman gives morale suport, hope and etc
I’m moving to spain
Big Spanish W
What?
@@deborafernandes1026 what you don’t understand?
Splitting the check in the first date is a big W, good that is the norm is Spain
@@user-my4lf4bx6v English is not my first language,sΓ³ i was just mention that i dint understand,sorry about that ! And i agree with you completely!!
I wanted to hear more from Ireland π
There is more in the full video π
Yeah….I don’t think she is from Italy like it says in the video lol
β@@DatingBeyondBordersWhy there is even a question about who pays for what a person consume? If you buy something at the supermarket, there is a question about who will pay for it?π€¨π€¨π€¨
In Poland guys are gentleman mostly. I never had to pay because for them was offended even when i asked. For them real man paying. Not my words but i can see that for them its obvious
In Poland traditionalism is pushed on both men and women
The reason why men are reluctant in the west is because most men know, women expect to be treated as a modern women, which is someone who doesnβt adhere to old traditional roles of each sex, a man paying for the women could be an example of that traditional role
However people, often times women, do want men in some ways to act traditionalβ¦.but you see, not completely traditional. For example, controlling your wife in the sense of where she can go, or if she can drive, this used to be the role of the man to control. Now in the west this is obsolete
So men see these traditions that only benefited men, as something society considers obsolete, so in a manβs mind, all traditions by logic would be obsolete, such as paying for a women, especially in a world where sheβs given an avenue at a young age to provide for herself. And thatβs the problem, men and women arenβt on the same page. People want to pick and choose what traditions they want to keep, which typically is dependant on what solely benefits themselves. Men paying for women benefits nobody but women. Men not allowing women to leave the house or drives benefits nobody but men.
Poland, isnβt in this weird middle point where you have a big mish mash of people picking and choosing which traditions they like and donβt like and expect their partner to pursue
Here in Brazil it will often be perceived as sexism, if we try to pay alone when on a date with an independent girl. It’s tricky. They can even understand we are trying to “buy” them. But in the past it was like you said.
Being straight sounds exhausting
It’s the same with same sex couples though
Huh? Are you bashing heterosexual people? Not cool. You know you wouldn’t like it if that’s done to you.
It is for a straight guy
Why should i pay for the first date? Why should the man pay in the first place?
We inherited it from the past when women didn’t have any belongings, so the men must pay for everything.
Women keep that habit because it’s convenient for them, and men cannot get rid of it because since their childhood it’s been rammed into their thoughts that that’s make them a man, and which boy wouldn’t want to be a man?
It’s as stupid as moustache makes a man, or disobedient wives should be beaten up by their husbands, or taking care of children isn’t for men, or men must earn more than the women, etc., etc., etc. (sadly, I could go for quite a long time).
But unfortunally it takes more time in some culturally less developed regions to get rid of it. Or ever… π
Well if you ask her out , you should pay If you donβt want to , then stay home
Why there is even a question about who pays for what a person consume? If you buy something at the supermarket, there is a question about who will pay for it?π€¨π€¨π€¨
β@@Limpi43agree with everything but not with not beating a disobedient female
Sounds exactly like in the US. If this is something I want to invest in, I’ll pay. If I’m not feeling it, then neither is she, and we’ll split.
It sounds like an implicit message to the other person, as in “let’s share the bill” = “well, we definitely won’t be seeing each other again”.
I’m Dutch, dated a lot of girls and guys, and I’m always the one paying because I’m the one who has asked the other out.
That’s a pretty fair way to go about it.
Girls don’t ask out guys on dates
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If the has a similar job to mine, I’ll always share. I only pay if it’s a girl who cannot afford the restaurant (if it’s an expensive one), but then I tell her that before the date. I’m Brazilian.
Guys, Don’t be a free meal for them. Let their indepencence deal with them.
It’s not the US we still have traditional women in central / Eastern Europe. So I Will pay everytime becaouse i’m a gentleman
@@danielsz8222 then you do that however far too many women are showing why they are not worth the time or effort.
@@kevinjermaine that’s how dating works unfortunatly
@@danielsz8222 only if you go by those rules or suggestions.
I am a portuguese woman and i like the way the spanish woman think
Itβs funny how men want that β traditional β woman, but when it comes to tally up , theyβre looking for the independent oneπ€£π€£π€£
The truth. They want the women to be independent sexually and financially with them π
So true π€£
Hmm when I was younger especially as a student I thought splitting was perfectly fine. Now that I am in my mid 20s I find splitting to be very stingy. Among friends I prefer to switch paying bills as long as the group is small. First dates are a bit of a weird situation but if you go to letβs say two places and one person pays for the coffee and the other for the drinks later (or sth like that), thatβs a much better solution
I agree with the guy who stated he did not want to go below his own personal standards. She can buy a treat or drink later if she feels pressured to contribute. It’s how we value who we are and our own standard.
Yes! and when our standards align, we find ourselves on a second date…
Moving to Spain.
Why there is even a question about who pays for what a person consume? If you buy something at the supermarket, there is a question about who will pay for it?π€¨π€¨π€¨
W SPain