Never Chase After Being Dumped

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• Self esteem and self respect is paramount. If you want her and she dumped you, don’t chase her. Only ONE time tell her that you want her, and if she change her mind to give you a call. Just that. After that, you must move on as much as it hurts. (Special note: if she slept with someone else during the break up, DONT take her back)

  This is a great video with great advices.

• I wish I never met her. This has been the most painful thing I have ever dealt with. Even the lost of immediate family members didn't hurt this much. I am heartbroken beyond words.

  • Same

  • Dude same. We had so much in common and everything was great. But looking back now I could tell she was afraid of love. She stressed herself out so much that she couldn't handle it anymore and left. Messed me up bad. My advice, cry as much as you can dude. Not even kidding, crying is such a good medicine. Sometimes I study and she intrudes my mind and i just bawl it out and get back to work when I numb out.

    I feel this is why everyone is doing the "hook up" thing because everyone has gotten burnt and now nobody wants to commit.

• Wishing all of you watching this, self growth and a healthier futur relationship. Keep growing personally, financially, spiritually. It's not an easy road, I hate being single, it feels so lonely. In my case, I dumped a girl who had already moved on, had another guy in mind, but didn't have the guts to leave me yet. When you hit rock bottom that can become a solid foundation. Keep it up ❤

• When you made mistakes(like I did) and you know it, it's even more painful. You can ask for a second chance but it just makes it worse, because she probably gave you second chances without you knowing. Plus like he said, those negative things you and I did will never ever leave her mind, even if she wanted to erase them, it's very sad that I lost a beautiful woman because I didn't have the right relationship skills.

  • In many cases, possibly yours is not his fault but the woman's, or rather the mother of nature.
    You may have committed things like not bringing that sexual intensity, that affective communication, not being emotionally present at all times, etc but let me tell you the following if the thing breaks down, it is her fault because she has not put in effort, she has not He indicated exactly what was happening to him and he has not shown empathy in the face of your difficulties, a situation that you could be going through.

    She still complains about 3 of your mistakes but if you analyze it carefully you see that she made those same "mistakes" or even made the same mistakes even to a greater extent or even more but yours are the ones that will count.

    I am not saying that you cannot be guilty, nor that you are perfect, nor that you do not need it or that it is good that you learn more about relationship skills but so that you take it into account.

    You did everything you could with the resources you had, they were not enough for her, keep in mind the hypergamic side, she could have seen someone who was a better match, more handsome, rich, successful.

    Get better, increase your value, learn more about social skills, sexual skills, relationships skills, dating skills, men and woman dynamics and go with another woman.

    That woman doesn't deserve your best version.

    Good luck and I hope life smiles on you!

  • @Immanuel Carretero LDR worst type of relationships
    Hate LDR soo much , rather stay single than be with even my soulmate on LDR
    I've experienced it. Its like a cracked window waiting to be shattered.

  • My exact same story

  • What did you do wrong???

  • realist stuff right here. but most likely bro she loved you and she probly sad too when she gets married double bet she be miserable as hell. my ex/ friend now made mistakes and i doubt ill even get married now id rather stay single if it isnt him.

• I get it.. 16 years she left on October 9th. Heard from her once.. Never mentioned getting back together. The more I listen to Jims videos the better I am feeling. She has a borderline personality disorder. I feel you your pain. Just remember you can't get dents out of a can from the outside only the inside out. Let's be strong and get the women we want.

  • i heard that you should RUN from anyone with borderline personality disorder, because they will destroy your entire life, fortunate for you indeed to be left by this woman, thank your lucky stars,

• Everything happens for a reason.. So painful at the time 7 year breakup took me about 3 or 4 month to feel better. Going through a 6 month relationship breakup and this is just as tough.

• Take the time for introspection if you get dumped. When I was younger, I never really registered getting dumped because there was always someone else in the picture immediately after. A series of rebounds. I never really learned anything about myself. I never learned why I was losing women (or keeping toxic women).

  This time I decided to not do anything after getting dumped. I faced the loneliness, took time to look at myself and what was wrong (fear of being alone). Now, I feel so much better.

  Also, the ex is back looking for me...

  • @Kimberly Tippen The ex looking for you isn't really a good thing. It just means that they are looking to keep control over your emotions. They can't understand why they were able to control you and then you got away.

  • Damn ur ex is looking for you wow wish my ex too 😔 6 years of relationship one day she left me cuz of anxiety why people are so mean i just don't understand 😔😔

  • @Rapture749 Give it a month or two. You'll be surprised at how different your perspective is after.

  • I'm in the same situation. Breakups haven't affected me before but now I am alone to work on myself. The loneliness is tough but I'm learning so much about myself.

• love of my life dumped me with no warning. said she lost feelings. anyone else here

  • Dillan Mendis its easier now but you may be right

  • You may think she is the love of your life, but she isn't bro.

  • Stephen Park doesn't get any easier from here man. how you holdin up?

  • Same here. I hear ya

• Thank you so much for the words of wisdom and encouragement. I am so grateful that I listen to your videos. I am 51 years old and I'm barely learning the true dynamics of women. One thing that I'm confused about is. Women are attracted to a man that is focused on his own goals, that's self confident. However what do you when a woman complains that you don't spend enough time with her? Alot of women desire attention and admiration. It seems like relationships are not about comprising. It's about a man accommodating his significant other. Yes alot of women in today's society are hypergamous. Women don't love men for who they are. They love what they can do for them. Alot of them are not emotionally stable either. I guess that it's true that you can't sacrifice your happiness just to make a woman happy. Hope you continue to make more videos.😊

• Your advice here was absolutely correct here after a rejection. I walked away never looking back when she said " I'll call you, don't call me". Then she called me after 30 days which I thought might happen. This has happened before when I didn't give a sh--t twenty years ago. You have to show emotional strength as a man. Its an attractive quality to women. Then YOU decide what you want to do.