What Dutch REALLY Think About Americans 
I went to the Netherlands to ask Dutch people what they really think about Americans and British style of communication. Here is what the Dutch shared with me.
Shop for our cultural merch here:
E-guide for dating women around the world? 
Dating in Scandinavia? Read book HERE:
Join DBB mailing list:
We used Epidemic Sound in this video. FREE MONTH:
Dating Beyond Borders is a Youtube channel that focuses on highlighting the cultural differences that come into play while dating people from other countries.
Videos out every Thursday β hit the bell button to receive notifications! 
Follow DBB on Social Media!
Facebook:
Instagram:
TikTok:
Website:
CREW:
Marina Iakovleva (directing)
Eddie Cristobal (video)
Lauren Neeson (audio)
Oleh Voitovych (editing)
Thatβs Canadian too.
Yess very similar
Canadians are even nicer. Also holding the door open for the person entering behind you is very much a norm in Canada
β@TuAmigoElMorrocoy Isnβt that just common courtsey? I apologise when I donβt. (Im British, so maybe Iβm just too close to stereotypes.)
β@@davestrider4973Iβm English, it definitely is common courtesy.
I appreciate Dutch honesty.
Obviously I canβt vouch for every American but I would say to the Dutch couple that if you have a good American friends you have friends that would do almost anthing to help you should you need it.
I do have a small town mentality but we do watch out for our friends and neighbors.
Forget that they rude , they cheep . Continent of Europe witch I travel extensively is very very cheep . Few generous people in Europe I meet where American.
Thatβs pretty much been my experience in Europe too. I can remember when I was in grad school we had a disproportionate number of European students and I saw several of them get their butts kicked seriously by playing the rude snob game and not knowing when to shut up.
Absolutely. Europeans ARE rude (Iβm European myself and canβt stand how arrogant we are)
Nothing more american than lumping us europeans altogether. So, not difference between the french, irish, portuguese, ukranians and italians for you?
All rude compared to the americans? Really?
Americans arenβt fake its just a formality that they follow. Tell them your opinions on politics and I bet they will change attitude real quick.
Thatβs still being fake. It doesnβt have to be followed. I certainly donβt follow it unless Iβm cornered by someone that does. Then I play along. But it definitely IS fake
@@BlackStarXplosionItβs not fake necessarily because no one is trying to really be sincere, itβs more a formality to take ambiguity out of the relations between people, or plaster over power structures, basically a cover for master-servant of capitalism and other structures for instance. A cope.
The Dutch donβt have this need as much because of the whole βlaat iemand in zijn waardeβ mentality (donβt look down on someone, but just look at them as being sensible or not) . There are power structures and hierarchy but no one is intrinsically better than the other.
Course for outsiders it is fake because itβs all theatre. But for them itβs just normal way of life, or at least not calculatingly fake. I think for Americans fake is seen more as pretending youβre someone youβre not. So higher degree fakery lol.
@@BlackStarXplosion I would say no because its such a trivial fundamental cultural foundation. Almost like saying shaking hands during a good business transaction is fake too.
No one wants you to cry your eyes out and lean on their shoulder when they ask it, but it is said as an assumption that everything is fine and you are going to say βgoodβ to reassure this assumption. Essentially Dutch people might be taking the question too intimately, that doesnβt make it fake.
@@BlackStarXplosionThere is nothing fake or phony at all about it. We are raised to be friendly, courteous and polite. In Business, when serving the public it is emphasized to be friendly, helpful, courteous and polite and not to be reserved rude snobs with delusions of grandeur like so many Euros. Soβ¦ have a nice day.
@@Mottleydude1 this isnβt about business. This is about being somewhere, and a random stranger acts like theyβre interested in your life, when they really arenβt. It is fake. It is phony. Maybe YOU actually care (I canβt imagine why), but most people donβt, and they only ask how youβre doing because itβs a cultural habit in the States. People arenβt asking because they want the real answer. Have you ever responded with the truth to a stranger at the gas station when youβre having a horrible day? Something like βmy day has been horrible. My dad died and I spent all day dealing with the Mortuaryβ? Nobody wants to hear the real answer to the question βhow are you?β when theyβre not someone you actually know. Iβll tell you what β¦ Answering honestly throws a wrench and oftentimes freezes people up, because theyβre expecting you to lie and say things are going great, because along with asking βhow are you?β out of habit, theyβre expecting the habitual answer of βFine, how are you?β. Itβs absolutely fake.
I wonder how to make a Dutch friend.
Europeans in general, especially western and Northern societies, are lonely and very hard to become friends with. Itβs a disaster.
with some shared hobby and some patience, beer also helps.
Take a crap and befriend it.
Just go to Japan youβll automatically learn to be friends with Europeans
American clerks are really friendly though and you can have great conversations with them, particularly when they understand youβre not American! They are genuinely curious about other cultures!
Nothing has made me dislike an entire nation like this video.
Arenβt they awful?
Yesβ¦They come across as cold and rude. They call it βdirectββ¦ Sad!
Dutch are really cheap. They usually go dutch for everything.
Miserable and cold pinched off euros
Well said! (Iβm European myself) and canβt stand the European arrogance
Are the ones they are talking about are the storekeepers or cashiers or just the ones working in the service industry? Because if thatβs the case, just cut them some slack. I donβt think they are being fake. Itβs just their job to make sure the customers are having a nice time in whatever business they are working for. Not showing enthusiasm or having a positive attitude towards customers could get them fired. Iβm no American but as someone who lives in a country where tourism is important, I understand that.
American retailers HAVE to do that βnice guyβ crap. Personally Iβm more Brooklyn-ese: βWadda-ya want?!β
How sad that friendliness has no chance in Europeβ¦ where the so called directness, for me purely rudeness, is valued so much. I prefer the βfakeβ how are you instead of the European disastrous customer βserviceββ¦
An introvert hereβ¦ Yeah, I can say being nice is actually good, but I can observe Americans tend to βoverdoβ it to the point that it is overwhelming, annoying, and sometimes βtoo-much-to-be-believableβ. Like, I admit, I found their on-the-top friendliness to be suspicious and sometimes even scary. No offenseβ¦
The last couple is very judgmental. We all have our different cultures. Americans are not fake. They are friendly and caring. I will say. In shops the employees are told to say hello, how are you.
During my travels I learn about the cultures. I accept different ways people are.
Fake just like their βconstitutionβ
Welcome to the real world where people wonβt always have nice things to say about your culture. Unless you believe you are flawlessβ¦you oughta learn to take some criticism.
@@jeanjacqueslundi3502itβs not criticism, itβs just grumpiness
@@jeanjacqueslundi3502 Welcome to the real world where people wont always have nice things to say when you criticize their culture.
My wife and i visited Austria and Bavaria this summer and loved our interactions. We made great conversation on the trains and it was quite easy to take down their tough exterior. My wife and I are Americans but we speak spanish to each other quite often (Im Mexican American and my wife learned throughout her life). Right away, this peaked Austrianβs interest to see Americans speak a language other than English. Then they realize that we are quite intelligent and we have deep conversations. It was pretty awesome.
We are nice, warm and inviting in the US , these people are cold fish
The second guy is absolutely gorgeous
Walmart opened a shop in Germany. It was not a success. One of the many causes was that Germans found the greeters creepy.
Hahaha
Americans are creepy anyway
@@Anonymous-lu7xrpeople from the EU canβt even practice basic hygiene
I would say clerks in American stores do genuinely care how youβre doing. Especially if youβre foreign, they would love to get to know you. As an American, I often say how ya doing in passing without any real intent to know how their doing, itβs a formality we say when in passing but want to evoke the same feeling of caring nature
I remember I went to an international meetup in Amsterdam. And the host asked if I was going to stay longer. I wasnβt sure. And out of no where he says just say you are going to go and leave. I was like wow, I hadnβt even made up my mind yet and was just chilling. So I was like ok Iβm getting the hell out of here! I love scenery and language but the Dutch can be off putting. Had the best kiss of my life there from a Dutch man though.
Hahaha that last couple is a hoot and a half! Americans arenβt naturally fake. Itβs our culture to be warm, friendly and greeting one another at work or social settings. At work, like in a shop, theyβre instructed to do that to make the customer feel welcome. While this is foreign to the Dutch, it can (and is intended to be) reassuring that weβre here to help you with whatever we can. Niceties and politeness arenβt inherently fake lol. Also, many Americans, because we attempt to make friends and know people at almost every stage of life, it can also be genuine when we meet someone the first time and see them a second time time somewhere and are reminded of their kindness or our interactions and therefore do feel close and comfortable and want to greet them with a hug and open arms. Typically, Americans mean well with this behavior and it isnβt fake in general, just being polite and flexible. When Americans are being fake, itβs very obvious. But, you donβt have to like us lol β weβll like ourselves and you at the same time