WATCH THIS Before Dating Another Culture
Today's video is all about cross-cultural relationships. What attracts us to other cultures. What top struggles we might face when dating someone from another culture. What can we do to make this process a little easier. Are you in a relationship with someone from abroad?
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0:00 Culture clash anecdote
1:10 My culture specific guides
1:56 Why we are drawn to other cultures?
2:20 The exotic factor
2:43 Stereotypical qualities
3:30 Pop culture
3:51 Sense of belonging
4:50 Challenge #1: Gender roles
5:07 Gender role anecdote: Persian vs Norwegian
6:11 Challenge #2: Affection
7:05 Affection anecdote: Brazilian vs Japanese
7:47 Challenge #3: Individualist vs collectivist
9:52 Challenge #4: Planning vs spontaneity
10:55 Challenge #5: Direct vs indirect
11:46 Communication anecdote: Brazilian vs Dutch
12:26 Challenge #6: Emotional vs rational
13:55 Jealousy
14:40 Jealousy anecdote: Turkish vs Swiss
15:27 Personal space
16:06 Marriage vs co-living together
16:22 How can you deal with these issues?
I adore you ♥️ tysm for this video 🥹
Thanks!
i’ve been thinking about this topic recently and its amazing how clear you’re able to articulate cross culture dating
Thank you!
Also I’m an Asian American born in the US and my wife is from Eastern Europe (Bosnia)
@@Wooist How’s the relationship going? I’m also from Bosnia 🙂
@@tarik6990 we just got married recently and I was just came back from Bosnia 🇧🇦 for our family celebration 2 weeks ago !!! Bosnians are great 🙂
@@Wooist Čestitam!
Fantastic Video. I believe that another video is required.
Ok will definitely consider that. Thanks!
@@DatingBeyondBorders You touched on a lot of things that people don’t think about when dating outside their culture.
4:16 I’m Brazilian, from SP. The “who pays the bill” in my social circle is still the man. Not because we are poor girls needing a man, struggling, or whatever… it’s just being polite. I’m 31 and to be honest I feel insulted when a man wants to split the bill, which just started to happen recently, btw, and very rarely. Even at a young age, in my early teens, hanging out with friends after school, the boys always “provided” for the girls. And when I say provide I mean: they used to pick us at home, walk us to our house… I would say they are very protective? Even my dad said to me once: “don’t pay for the boys, never”…
So growing up in this enviorement when the boys were always protective, worried, when I split the bill I just feel “yeah, not the right person”… it’s def not for the money and it happens with friends, too. You don’t need to be on a date, if you have a close friend, he is likely to pay the bill.
I’ll give you an example, real thing: couple months ago I got reconnected to a friend and he messaged me inviting me to go to a bar, I wasn’t sure, and he said: “send me your adress, I’m sending you an uber”, we went to the bar, we had some drinks, we went to his place to drink more, nothing happened, I slept over there because we were drunk… next day I woke up and there was a message of him “I needed to go out to pick my daughter, please let me know when you wake up so I can book you an uber”. And I know him since I was 16y old. That’s how “proper men” behave in Brazil. I didn’t need the uber, I ordered myself, but that’s how men take care of us. Unfortunelly in the recent years there are some girls using the good will of men.
That being said I should say that I grew up in a privileged group, went to private school, the people are more conservative, so this is my small bubble.
Um verdadero cavalheiro. Saudaçoes do Perú, com muita enveja
That’s exactly 💯 how it always should be.
@@amiquigonzales7917 hehehe e veja que eu disse que ficamos “borrachos”.
Por favor tem auto respeito, ninguem problem com dinheiro
Your sexual market value has been lowered, especially you’re now in your 30s. If you were ugly when you were young this reality you’re living now would have happened sooner.
Unless the couple can work around each other’s culture, that relationship has to be reconsidered.
Great video. I think people should be mindful about their partners cultures. Also I guess the key for some people, is to try and date cultures that might be similar to yours, or a culture you personally would like to assimilate to as well.
Yes 🙌
It’s hard for me.
My father is German, my mother Romanian. The difference between those 2 countries is like day and night.
But I prefer dating someone who’s attitude is similar to Romania.
Like Colombia recently. I visited that country and fell in love with its people, attitude, nature, food, music,…
And sometimes I felt like I was in Romania when I was around the people or when I saw the beautiful landscape of theirs.
Love your videos! I look forward to the UK dating guide. ☺
Coming.. eventually! 😄
I am a Syrian woman ( not muslim) dating a German man and because of your channel I was really becoming more relaxed and opened for the culture diffrences especially for me as middle Eastern with European man , for me as not muslim woman from a muslim country makes me feel not belonged and that is basicly the reason haha
Understanding the background culture of your partner makes the relationship stronger 🤗
I am so happy to hear that!
Cross-cultural communication video yes please! and I LOVE Your Content So Much!!! Can’t wait for the culture-specific guides ♥
Thank you!!!
Having done business in 25 countries and been in another 15 for personal reasons, I can relate to everything you have said in this video. Yes, cross cultural communication is critical. Please, create a video on that topic.
Im a filipino male married to a Lebanese/Armenian lady from Sweden. Our cultures are somewhat similar. Been married for 19yrs. It’s an odd pairing since most Lebanese girls don’t marry outside their cultures.
Toronto guy here….. trust me it is fun to date outside your comfort zone
I’ve suffered racism from the females in my country and that’s what has pushed me forward to follow your channel and thinking seriously about finding a girl from other countries
Which country are you from?
As an American with a Norwegian girlfriend but have dates a Swede, lemme tell ya 😂😂 You’re spot on, but I respect it and love it. It’s odd shutout works for us, I’m typical American; gregarious and super extroverted and handle all of the talking, appointments and reminders of “Sir, her steak is over cooked…” 🤭 She makes sure we’re on time, hyper organized and meticulously structured.
I’m as southern as the day is long, drawl and all, so manners are king; “yes ma’am, no ma’am, yes sir, no sir..”, opening doors, pulling chairs and giving her my jacket if it’s raining or she gets cold. I love every second of it
I’m so glad you made this, as too many folks see the “sexy” side of dating other cultures, but man, there’s A LOT of nuance and other things that can break both of you if you’re not careful and deliberate in your learning how to love him/her. It works for us 🇺🇸 🇳🇴🙌🏽
Super interesting topic and would love to know more! I also liked that you touched on the fact that not all feel like they belong to the culture they grew up in. Would be interesting to hear your perspective on that, or in interviews with people. ❤️
I second this, coz it’s my case as well. I don’t feel belonging anywhere and to anyone.
Yep, same here. Growing up in Germany under a german father and romanian mother. But I already felt as a child that I might want to emigrate one day bcz I can’t see myself acting like a “real German” by 100%.
I really love your videos, it’s makes me more aware of why some of date don’t work. Because of your videos I can now search partners that fit me better!
Happy Friday, Marina! As an American 🇺🇲 born of Colombian 🇨🇴 and Honduran 🇭🇳 heritage, I usually prefer dating European women and Latina women although both types have different personalities. My personality is more easy going, go with the flow type and the last few women I have dated have been Europeans as my last girlfriend was a Spanish 🇪🇸 woman but I personally think that dating women from other cultures is a good eye opener to me as it’s good to learn about other cultures and backgrounds. If we vibe, we vibe and if we don’t vibe, we don’t. I do like a feminine woman. This is a great video Marina and sending my love ❤
If you are ever back in Miami in the future, dinner is on me Marina 😊
I don’t identify with most of the social norms in my culture (Iran) , but the emotional thing is spot on. I don’t date Iranian women because generally the expectations they have, do not match what they can offer and what I value in a relationship.
But for me it’s difficult to find someone since I want to show affection and emotions but it is considered unmanly unless I’m dating someone from similar cultures e.g latins. I’m currently in Germany and I think it’s the worst possible place for a guy like me to try and date 🙂
Yes, I have a german father and a romanian mother.
And the difference between those 2 countries is as different as day and night.
In Germany I often hear if you show affection/emotions “too early” then you’re “needy” or something. I don’t like that. If I have sympathy or feelings for someone, why shouldn’t I show that?
In Romania it’s the opposite. We’re not even talking about relationships yet over there, but the romanian people are always more social, emotional, friendlier and happier in general than the Germans.
Reconsider your thoughts. In Germany you have plenty of people with different foreign backgrounds who certainly don’t act that german when it’s about dating and realationships. Turkish, Polish, Czech, Romanian, Serbian, Albanian,…
Otherwise yes man, I agree. When it’s about showing affection/emotions, especially in the beginning, I think it can be hard, but not impossible.
I am Latina and was with a Swedish man for 14 years, and we have a child. I don’t think I’d want another Swede. Think twice before committing to someone from a very different culture.
I met a Belgian (from the French side)guy online here in NY and when I expected to meet just him, it was him and his friend at the bar, and his friend stayed with us the rest of the night. He said he would take me to lunch the following day, and surprise, his friend was also there too. Luckily I enjoyed his friend. However, when he didn’t try kiss me, which is something most guys try to do, I was a bit disappointed. The next day he wanted us all to go out again and we spent every day together (when I wasn’t working). I was wondering if I was in the friendzone. We did meet on a dating app, which would have beeen misleading on his part. However, when we went to a concert he finally made a move and held me close. We continue to get to know each other everyday, he is good at keeping in touch. I read up if this was crazy behavior to hang out as a group, not to be kissed. The answer is yes. Its pretty normal to do have friends be introduced early to those they date. Learning that kissing is a major step in their culture, where it isn’t in America, as a sign of commitment. It made me understand that I was in a rush to make it all happen fast. He isn’t. We will be spending more time together soon. Hopefully with no friends and more kissing. Yes it is a good idea to know how people court in their culture because they will do things differently.