The UNEXPECTED Way to Find Love FASTER | Relationship Advice by Mat Boggs

@SleeplessinOC says:

THANK YOU !!! That!!!! Is ALWAYS the thing I’m thinking when watching dating advice videos .
Simply , there are NOT enough remotely dateable men and the pool just gets smaller with age.
That’s why I laugh when I hear advice about “rotational “ or “quantum” or whatever name that particular coach calls it because it seems to imply that as long as we are WILLING to go on dates with many people, that there will always be enough for a revolving door. And I’m thinking they must be referring to some different planet . Lol.
COULD we find , if we try , a few men here and there that are “available “ to date but who we know right off the bat that we are not attracted to in the least? Sure , but even available people who we know we aren’t interested in are few and far between , how much more so for the ones who seem half way decent and whom we find at least somewhat attractive ?
Being single (available ) , nice, age appropriate , gainfully employed , are some of the bare minimums that both people should be able to expect , a starting point and then hopefully there being mutual attraction .
I think we’d have better luck finding a unicorn nowadays than a “starting point” person , even just ONE person , to even entertain the idea of dating. I’m not not dating because I don’t want to , I’m not dating because there are BARELY any available men , at least not the ones just coming out of a divorce and who is jaded and isn’t serious about starting a meaningful and trust built relationship . Or men who are fifteen or more years older than you when you want to be not too far apart in age .
All I know is it’s just a mess and this has nothing to do with me thinking negatively. It’s reality , real life and it sucks. The last guy I tried to force myself to like because it was such a rare thing to meet someone who was actually available , age appropriate , not too far distance wise , and who actually really liked me , turned out to be emotionally unstable AND I felt repulsed to be near him and I felt zero attraction but I tried to convince myself to like him because this opportunity was so rare. But I just couldn’t do it so I ended it before he could accuse me of leading him on.
I’ve always said , so much dating and relationship advice , so so few men to use it on . Don’t get me wrong , I love Mat’s advice videos and I know he is the real deal and sincere about wanting to help all of us navigate these complex dating obstacles but if there aren’t enough people to date , then no amount of wishing is going to change that.