Why Portuguese Men Prefer to Date Foreign Women 🇵🇹

I interview Leo from the channel Portuguese with Leo about the dating scene in Portugal and why oftentimes Portuguese men prefer to date outside their culture.

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  • @sllcdispositive7792 says:

    Seems the guy lives in a different Portugal. Most men are very shy, dependent and expect the woman in their life to take of all household work. Can’t tell where his perspective derives from.

    • @redleeks6253 says:

      He’s talking about hook-ups and casual dating, something that’s not prevalent in the portuguese culture and the local men already know that.
      Foreign women from central/North Europe are more open to hook-ups and short term dating (since they’re also in the country for the short-term) so they just go ahead.

    • @lxportugal9343 says:

      Portuguese men are wonderful… fantastic…outstanding

      We are amazing… truly we are

  • @cartier2312 says:

    Portuguese women are so gorgeous 💕

  • @redleeks6253 says:

    Portuguese woman here who never dated a portuguese man.
    Maybe Portuguese women aren’t into hook-up culture and if they were they would rather be with a foreigner who won’t ‘judge them’ since their not of their social circle.

    What this guy is reading into ‘intent’ is thag portuguese women might be interested in a foreign man but not in a hook-up or short term fling (since foreigners are usually here in the short term) as for the men they don’t mind hook-ups and short term flings with these foreign women who are also in the country for the short-term and won’t be ‘judged’ since they’re far away from their home country.

    Side note: Majority of European guys residing in Portugal are not exactly a ‘catch’ or ‘boyfriend/marriage material’ and others are migrants from developing countries with very different cultures that dont match portuguese and/or western values in general.

    • @marianagarrido6795 says:

      100%

    • @redleeks6253 says:

      ​@@marianagarrido6795

      Clarifying some points of what this clueless guy is trying to say.

      ‘Village mentality’ = Not being into hook-up culture and casual sex isn’t ‘village mentality’, it’s called ‘dating with purpose’.

      ‘Not being emancipated as in other countries’ = Again, not being into casual sex and collecting new strands of syphilis isn’t for lack of emancipation. Portuguese women have equal rights since 1976 and is one of the EU countries with more full time working moms and female scientists. Portuguese women are using their emancipation and rights to contribute to the society not to stroke visitors egos who are used to ‘sex before coffe’.

      ‘They make men wait’ = We go back to ‘dating with intent’ and ‘seeking meaningful relationships’. A woman might be interested in a man but in the long term. So ‘making him wait’ just translates into ‘dating’ and not just hooking-up.

      Portuguese women are not afraid of judgment but they will definitely will. It’s the eternal double binding, if they are ‘too easy’ they are sl.t shamed if they’re not they have ‘village mentality and are not emancipated’. *rolls eyes*

    • @LydDee says:

      Preach! 👏🖤

    • @lxportugal9343 says:

      Ora aí é que a porca torce o rato

      Eu acho que a Marina ainda não percebeu bem.

      Os homens portugueses gostam das estrangeiras… porque elas se vão embora 😁😁😁

      Explicando melhor… é mais fácil iniciar um relacionado sabendo que a outra pessoa está cá só de passagem. Ou seja o drama de acabar com a relação desaparece ou é atenuado porque ela acaba por se ir embora. É que custa um bocado entrar à maluca e acabar com a relação logo a seguir, parece que estamos a usar e não queremos magoar a outra a pessoa. Também pode acontecer o homem desenvolver sentimentos pela pessoa e ela ir-se embora na mesma 🤷‍♂️é a vida

      Com alguém que mora cá permanentemente, preferimos conhecer bem a pessoa antes de nos envolvermos… e muitas vezes quando a conhecemos já sabemos que ela não é indicada para nós

    • @pedromiguel9852 says:

      Maybe you should ask yourselves why people would judge Portuguese women for engaging in hook-ups and not men. In modern days there’s no reason to wait if both want to have sex. Also, wtf do you mean when you say “western values”? It’s like a boomer who’s never left his own country and thinks people in USA, Portugal and Norway share the same “values”. Men don’t respect women who engage in short-term relationships because of sexism, that’s all.

  • @helioflanaganveiga says:

    I feel like Portuguese women play hard to get because they are so beautiful! It’s like they can be picky! 😍

  • @johngonzalez4298 says:

    Happy Tuesday, Marina! Hope you’re having a wonderful week! I have been told in the past that Portuguese 🇵🇹 women are more on the reserved side but I never met a Portuguese 🇵🇹 woman myself but I can only go with what I was told. Sending my love your way ❤ and stay beautiful

  • @dave5008 says:

    My favorite language learning channel and my favorite dating channel collaborated! Thanks for the content, Marina and Leo. ❤

  • @silversun7830 says:

    Portuguese people look really good ❤

  • @rosarufino8512 says:

    Quick note: you should also interview people from the north of Portugal. There’s a big difference 😂😅

    • @pauvermelho says:

      She lived in Lisbon.

      In Algarve things are diferent also.

      I think Lisbon is more conservative than other areas of Portugal

    • @chrystianaw8256 says:

      How so?

    • @rosarufino8512 says:

      @chrystianaw8256  In the north we are a bit more straightforward/fiery. We can be blunt and be considered rude if we speak the same way we do in the north, in Lisbon, for example. Generally speaking, from Coimbra down, I feel people and ways are way more indirect and sinuous than in the north of Portugal. (It’s not better or worst, it’s just different)


      [this next part is referencing the video, more than your question]

      Women in Portugal like to enjoy their time having fun, yes [shock]. And fun might mean to dance just for the sake of dancing, and not necessarily to find a mating partner. In the north, if bothered, we might confront the person that is bothering us or push them way; in the south they might be a bit more polite and do the circle thing to avoid men’s interference… idk



      Nevertheless, I find the mentality of playing “hard to get” a bit destructive for both ends. To be honest, It’s not nice to say “no” and have guys insisting because they think we are “playing hard to get”… what if she really doesn’t want THAT guy? What if she just wants to have fun? or what if she is a feminine presenting lesbian?

      I know we are talking about stereotypes, but still… Idk if perpetuating this stereotype of disregarding people’s signals/feelings is actually good and if it is indeed true or if it is rooted in the sexist idea that “women don’t know what they want“.

      If it’s not a clear YES, is still a NO.

  • @GustavoPinho89 says:

    Shout out to Leo. Grande abraço, irmão!

  • @arspoetica5479 says:

    Portugese girls have self respect👏 Its not a big deal to be easy and have ONS, come on- everyone can be easy. 💀

    • @asamicat8323 says:

      They can’t decide how women should be: “valuable” or “from the streets”. Both are bad in their eyes so… There are no chances

  • @ER-df8vx says:

    Seems like Portuguese women respect themselves those women seem like keepers

  • @Sa_yen says:

    I’m married to a portuguese woman.
    Portuguese women don’t play hard to get they are hard to get and it worths it.

    Portuguese women might seem difficult because they don’t want to waste their time with short flings so the man has to prove he’s up for the long run. Befriend her family and you’ll have unlimited access to her mom’s portuguese dishes😅.

    • @ricardovicente5334 says:

      As Portuguese man, one is Saying for Portuguese women to be “easy” they make it so hard verging on the Impossible to date them that the guy loses interest even if he plays his cards right, like cooperante a little with us

    • @alessbritish228 says:

      @@ricardovicente5334 It seems unfair.

  • @alexurfantasy says:

    I’m American but my family is Latin American , I went to Lisbon in September for the first time , I was shocked to realize that there aren’t many real Portuguese people in Lisbon . Most of the people I met were from Bangladesh and Brazil.

    • @nicolef4535 says:

      sad reality…

    • @louiseleite3866 says:

      It’s because all the Portuguese people are all here in London.

    • @louiseleite3866 says:

      ​@@nicolef4535Just as sad as not seeing English people in London. All the Portuguese are over here.

    • @alexurfantasy says:

      @@louiseleite3866 lol

    • @alexurfantasy says:

      @@louiseleite3866 at least the Portuguese people aren’t that phenotypically different looking from the British and culturally/religiously aren’t that different either . When someone comes from a Muslim or Hindu nation in Africa or Asia, they really stick out and change the atmosphere of a place , you should probably be grateful that there are Portuguese people and not people from a totally different and incompatible society from yours

  • @Minu-lv1rk says:

    So I’m very Portuguese! I don’t like one night stands. I need to know the person.

  • @normarndelathassologenesis2967 says:

    Initiative in men matters so much in life and dating. Even an independent feminist is not going to know you’re interested or have good intentions until you show her.

    • @alessbritish228 says:

      attempting might get you cancelled.

    • @normarndelathassologenesis2967 says:

      @@alessbritish228 Not if you’re appropriate, respectful, and accept no for an answer. Most of the dudes getting complained about don’t know how to behave and need the the lesson.

  • @ricardovicente5334 says:

    As a Portuguese man i can confirm, damn near Impossible to date a Portuguese women

  • @jantonions says:

    Portuguese man here. I’ve had it but gotta say it even feels weird to have a ONS with a Portuguese 😂 they’re just not for that. In terms of GF material they’re VERY good tho, but after some foreigners I’m not coming back, international dating is just better

  • @danesovic7585 says:

    Sounds like a win for the Portugese women.

  • @draculapoontang3970 says:

    Is self respect a turn off

  • @RecklawTheAmazing says:

    I have a Portuguese friend who went on some dates with an American guy (I’m also American). She told him she didn’t wanna keep dating and just wanted to stay friends. Then she got soooo pissed when he went on a date with someone else. They ended up getting together after that, and I was just as confused as he was when he told me haha

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